Feeling a little sad...

So, FH just called me and said that the workout that I am doing is not working. I couldn't believe what he said to me. I thought I was looking very good, and apparently, he thinks otherwise. I feel like crying. He was trying to be sincere about it, but can you be sincere about something like that? I'm not saying what he said was right, and I think the wording was very harsh, but I think he was more or less telling me that maybe all the hard work I am doing is not working. He offered to hire me a trainer. I just wish that something nicer would have came out of his mouth. Between the wedding, dieting, working out and stress with work, my mental status is totally taking a beating. I really didn't think i looked bad. I mean, I eat extremely healthy, I work out like an hour to an hour and a half every day. I thought my hard work was paying off, and apparently it isn't.

I'm sorry, I just needed to vent. I just wanna cry, but I can't b/c I am working. Its something so stupid to be upset about, but it ***** that it had to come out of his mouth. I even turned red when he told me.
I'm just feel really embarrassed about this whole thing

oh my god, are you kidding me?? first off i think you look amazing!!! I don't know why he would say something like that he should think about what he says before he says it. Don't listen to him please, you are very beautiful and lots of girls i'm sure would wish they looked like you......don't cry!!

i am sorry you are feeling sad I def know how you feel bc i have my sad days...with so much going on it just gets so stressful.


as for fh I def think you have a right to be upset...he probably didn't realize how it came out...i am sure he loves how you look whether your working out or not....he probably just should have said it in a different way. you have a right to tell him how it made u feel.

don't stressss...hope your day gets better!

Oh my goodness. I would feel the same way you do in that situation. Try not to let it get to you. Maybe he wanted to take some of the stress off of you by getting you a trainer. IDK
Hang in there, you know you look great!!!

Typical Guy..
thoughts are in the right place but his mouth isn't.

Ugh.. i'm so sorry, that def ***** the way he put it. Honestly, if you think that the workout you were doing is paying off then perhaps thats all that matters.. how you feel about yourself.

I am so sorry and please dont cry. I am sure you are in way better shape now then you were when you first started dieting so dont let him bring you down.
I dont' really know why anyone would say that to you esp FH but I am sure he prob wanted to be honest with you.
Maybe bc he sees you alot he doesnt notice??
To offer a trainer is kinda offensive too but just talk to him when you see eachother next and explain how it made you feel.

UR FRIGGEN GORGEOUS!!!

what does he want u to weigh, 5 lbs??????

seriously if what ur doing makes u feel healthy and beautiful, then dont change it. ur the one who can feel and tell if u are making strides towards where u want to be on the big day...thats what's most important.

he definitely could have been more sensitive in how he said it, but i know i have been telling FH to be honest w/me when it comes to the wedding, so i guess he was just being honest, but still. i guess though, if he wants to pay for a personal trainer, thats pretty cool! look at it as an upside, cuz id totally use a trainer if i could afford one, or had someone paying for it.

but bottom line, u look AMAZING right now...just know that!

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Posted by GonnaBeeMrsG

I am so sorry and please dont cry. I am sure you are in way better shape now then you were when you first started dieting so dont let him bring you down.
I dont' really know why anyone would say that to you esp FH but I am sure he prob wanted to be honest with you.
Maybe bc he sees you alot he doesnt notice??
To offer a trainer is kinda offensive too but just talk to him when you see eachother next and explain how it made you feel.

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Well I was seeing a trainer a few months ago. It was going to be expensive, for me anyways (Lucille Roberts offered a fair price than, but it was around Christmas, so the money wasn't there for me to spend on myself). I guess FH thought maybe I'd want to go back to her. But really you guys, i don't think he realizes how bad that hurt.

I was a big kid when I was a preteen. I lost a lot of weight, the wrong way, and dealt with issues about my weight for a really long time. He knows my story, but the thing is, I don't think he knows how serious my issues were. And still are. I am deathly afraid of weight gain. I'm not going to lie. Thats why I am a fanatic.

God, I am so freakin hurt by all this. Honestly, thank god for you all on this board. I seriously was going to go walk around the building and ball my eyes out.

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Posted by Jenna_and_John

Okay first of all you look amazing in your pics on your page. Second of all if you are eating that healthy and working out that much I am SURE it is paying off, maybe he just doesn't notice it. If you feel like it is then that is what matters. Please don't get discouraged, and I'm sure your FH meant well it just came out wrong. Sometimes I've noticed if I do the same workout for so long I need to change it up to see more results so maybe that's what he meant and all you really need. Please stay positive and keep up the good work. Maybe you should even keep a log of food/workout/lost weight so you can see and show your progress in writing if maybe to some people it's not visible like your FH. Keep smiling!!!!

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Thats actually a good idea. I think I may do that. Just to show him that things are working.

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Posted by Sandradv121

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Posted by Jenna_and_John

Okay first of all you look amazing in your pics on your page. Second of all if you are eating that healthy and working out that much I am SURE it is paying off, maybe he just doesn't notice it. If you feel like it is then that is what matters. Please don't get discouraged, and I'm sure your FH meant well it just came out wrong. Sometimes I've noticed if I do the same workout for so long I need to change it up to see more results so maybe that's what he meant and all you really need. Please stay positive and keep up the good work. Maybe you should even keep a log of food/workout/lost weight so you can see and show your progress in writing if maybe to some people it's not visible like your FH. Keep smiling!!!!

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Thats actually a good idea. I think I may do that. Just to show him that things are working.

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Absolutely, bc I swear from the way it sounds I would bet my life that there has been sooo much progress!!!

Ok number one...i just looked at your engagement party pics, and I think you look SO good!! I would kill to have a body like yours, I dont see how FH could have said that to you
Second...did you tell him that he hurt your feelings? maybe he doesnt realize it...he should though. Also, who is he to say that to you? what about him...would he like it if you told him he looked chunky?

I'm sorry but i just cant stand men who are like that (dont hate me...) You obviously work hard to keep yourself healthy, what does he want you to do? Quit your job and turn into a gym rat?

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Posted by rocketsummer17

Ok number one...i just looked at your engagement party pics, and I think you look SO good!! I would kill to have a body like yours, I dont see how FH could have said that to you
Second...did you tell him that he hurt your feelings? maybe he doesnt realize it...he should though. Also, who is he to say that to you? what about him...would he like it if you told him he looked chunky?

I'm sorry but i just cant stand men who are like that (dont hate me...) You obviously work hard to keep yourself healthy, what does he want you to do? Quit your job and turn into a gym rat?

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i agree...if you are going to diet and exercise you should do it for yourself...not for fh or anyone else..

i really want to lose weight...fh tells me all the time he loves my body and how i look...but i want to lose it so i feel better for myself...

you look AMAZING! don't let anyone else make u feel any different!

..... you better train him before you marry him girl! i have no words for it... if i knew you as a personal friend, i would tell you what i really think about that...

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Posted by rocketsummer17

Ok number one...i just looked at your engagement party pics, and I think you look SO good!! I would kill to have a body like yours, I dont see how FH could have said that to you
Second...did you tell him that he hurt your feelings? maybe he doesnt realize it...he should though. Also, who is he to say that to you? what about him...would he like it if you told him he looked chunky?

I'm sorry but i just cant stand men who are like that (dont hate me...) You obviously work hard to keep yourself healthy, what does he want you to do? Quit your job and turn into a gym rat?

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Thank you. I am not mad. I 100% agree with what you are saying. I think I need to sit him down later and speak to him about this. I mean, he really really hurt my feelings, and I don't think he realizes what he did. He needs to realize that I won't ever be a model, and I don't want to be either (nothing against models though).

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Posted by rocketsummer17

Ok number one...i just looked at your engagement party pics, and I think you look SO good!! I would kill to have a body like yours, I dont see how FH could have said that to you
Second...did you tell him that he hurt your feelings? maybe he doesnt realize it...he should though. Also, who is he to say that to you? what about him...would he like it if you told him he looked chunky?

I'm sorry but i just cant stand men who are like that (dont hate me...) You obviously work hard to keep yourself healthy, what does he want you to do? Quit your job and turn into a gym rat?

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yes i agree 100%
You should tell him how you feel. he'll never know how you feel and he'll just say it again and again till you blow up at him.....i hope everything works out, don't let him get to you

all that matters is that you feel good and that you think you look good,

and me & many other girls here think you look great already..

dont stess about it.. guys dont know when to keep their mouths shut..

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

..... you better train him before you marry him girl! i have no words for it... if i knew you as a personal friend, i would tell you what i really think about that...

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that's exactly what i was thinking.....my FH can be brutally honest sometimes and I think its bc he didn't grow up with any women in the house but if he ever told me that he would be sleeping on the couch for a long time.

i've seen your pics too and you look amazing, i would kill for your body. if your fh doesn't appreciate you the way you are then you need to have a serious talk with him....and i am gonna leave it at that.