Feeling really sad and hurt..

Anyone else have people saying they are not coming even though you were led to believe they would? Half of the relatives I invited are sending back no's with not even so much as a 'wish we could be there' message. These are people I have known my entire life... My feelings are really hurt right now and I feel like my already small wedding is getting smaller by the day I wish this didn't bother me but it does so much... Anyone else go through this or have any advice?


Thanks for letting me vent ladies

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Yes, we had the same thing happen. A lot of FH's family kept saying, 'we can't wait to come.' And as we got the RSVP's back, out of the 50 people on his side that were invited, 11 are coming. 11.

So I feel your frustration. We have 15 tables at our reception and he has 2 out of those 15 being family. Then he has 1 table as friends on his side.

I wish people just wouldn't have led us to believe they were coming. It affects meeting the min. at the hall, the # of favors we already bought, etc.

We also had people rsvp yes, then days after, call or email that they weren't coming for whatever reason they could find. Very frustrating.

You'll get through it.

Sorry to hear that. You may feel sad now, but think on your wedding day you will be so elated, you hopefully won't notice. Enjoy the guests that can come. Feel better hun!

We got our first disappointing 'sorry can't make it' response the other day. These are close friends that got married last year who we were really supportive of. They knew about our wedding for over a year and now say they are going to be in Florida on the wedding date. This is kind of why I regret sending out STD's...if people want to be there, they will and if people don't care they aren't going to be bothered with all the notice in the world.

I've received on 'no' from a weird cousin I had to send an invite to. All she did was right 'NOT' in all caps like that in the blank spot. Umm ok, no one is twisting you're arm..

Feel better sweetie, you're not alone

I am sorry that the no's are getting you down. Look at this way, it is their loss for not sharing in your day.

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Posted by brittny817

We got our first disappointing 'sorry can't make it' response the other day. These are close friends that got married last year who we were really supportive of. They knew about our wedding for over a year and now say they are going to be in Florida on the wedding date. This is kind of why I regret sending out STD's...if people want to be there, they will and if people don't care they aren't going to be bothered with all the notice in the world.

I've received on 'no' from a weird cousin I had to send an invite to. All she did was right 'NOT' in all caps like that in the blank spot. Umm ok, no one is twisting you're arm..

Feel better sweetie, you're not alone

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I have to agree with Britt. I really regret sending out some STD's, when I now know that the people won't come. Thank god theres no love loss though . That the one thing that makes me happy. I hope things get better. Your day will be beautiful if they came or not!!

Diane I am so sorry you're going through this!!! I wish I could say something to make you feel better...well, Brett & I will be there!

Honestly though....the people who will be the best guests are the ones that will be there- the ones you REALLY want to be there on your big day. They're the ones that matter. A small wedding is not a bad thing- an intimate one is great and REALLY special. Then you know each and every person there really deserves to be part of this amazing day.

Call if you need to vent okay?

And we're gonna have FUN this weekend!!! So try and let it roll off your back...it won't matter when you're saying your vows! And you'll have so much fun during the reception, you won't miss them!

I'm afraid of having the same thing happen. Just know that those that truly love you both and want to celebrate with you, WILL be there!

Thanks so much for all your sweet messages. I feel a bit better just knowing I'm not alone in feeling this way. We sent out STD's so I know excatly what you mean. Why do some people have to s u c k so hard

I am going through this with my dad unfortunately him and my mother are divorced and b/c o something that happened he said he never wants to see my mother again so he wont be attending and the same with most of his side we just need to hang in there together and remember that it will still be the best day of our lives!!

awwwww....

i feel your pain! DH and i invited 180 and only got 106 or so...and that was after i recruited some LIW girls to come! i was shocked at the # of no's.

but in the end....those who will be there to celebrate, will still make it the best day ever! by the time the big day came....i was just happy with those who came!

aww im so sorry

yea....I went through this as well, and was really bummed out.
Its shocking and really disappointing when people who you think love you don't even make the effort to be there for such an important occasion. And unfortunately, you'll never forget it.
However, I can tell you from experienc, that on that day, you won't even care or notice.
The only person you'll even notice when you're coming down the aisle is Roy. Next, your parents, elders, and closest friends.
The people who really need to be there....will be.
As for a very small wedding....that is wonderful. You'll get to spend time and dance with everyone!
The nicest weddings I went to were always the smallest b/c I felt like I was part of it.
Dancing with the bride and/or groom is the ultimate compliment.
You'll get to do that with everyone.
If I had to do it over again, I would have made my 90 person wedding much smaller so that I could have spent more time with everyone. Its going to be beautiful.

I'm so sorry to hear that. But the most important people that need to be at the wedding is You and Your Hubby because if not then there would be no wedding and when you are there it will feel like is only you and your hubby alone. I only had 6 family members in my wedding. Don't worry things happen for a reason and you don't want to have people that don't want and don't deserve to be there it will ruin your special day. Stay strong and hang in there.

Sandra

I saw this on another board to. From
akaMrsT

Please do NOT stress over those who are not coming or the utterly ridiculous reasons (or lack thereof) that they give for not being able to attend. You wedding day will be a beautiful day. It will be their loss and they will feel like complete idiots when everyone around them is talking about your wedding day and sharing stories and photos

I'm sorry

Don't let this ruin your time though.

i'm sure it will be ok in the end and it will be a wonderful day. try not to think about it too much. it will be their loss for not sharing in your day!

I am going through somewhat of a similar situation.. Family members aren't able to make it but are sending others in their place.. I didn't know people did that!!!

However, a few family friends said no- and I was surprised. It's a bit of a let down.. If you'd like I can send some of my 250+ guests your way!

It will all work out!! At least that is what my FI keeps telling me!