FH Advice

wow this is a tough one. I can understand how you feel about him going away for 2 months. I never mind when Dh goes away but its usually for a few days, 2 months i'd definitely get upset. Well not upset but just sad bc i know how much i'd miss him for 2 months. I can only imagine how hard it would also be since its right before your wedding.

On the other hand i can see your dilemma. I wouldn't want to hold DH back from any of his dreams. You want them to do things that make them happy and accomplish any of their goals, you dont want to be the reason they aren't able to fulfill a certain goal of theirs. And its hard bc this is something you knew about him when you got together, and you dont want to change someone or more like stop them from doing something that is this important to them and part of who they are.

Theres no right or wrong, i wouldnt even know what to do. I would keep going back and forth between his dream and accomplishing something he wants to do and then us being away from eachother for 2 whole months. You're not wrong for feeling the way you do. I guess just sit down and talk to him seriously, see if this is something maybe he can do after the wedding, ask him if there will be another opportunity to do this, im sure he is going with others so find out if those other ppl are planning on doing it another time after the wedding. Also explain to him how you think you'll really need him around right before the wedding.

Good luck, this is definitely a tough one.

I would be upset of his doing this before the wedding. However, from your post it seems you are upset of his doing it at all. I know 2 months is a long time (I have spent a lot of time away from FH doing an internship- for a year and in the 4 years of dating, brian had to do field work alot in SA for weeks at a time). It really made us get closer. From what you are saying it sounds as if he really needs this and it would mean alot to him to have your support. Maybe you can compromise that he does it after the wedding?