FH and FMIL are KILLING me!

CMS Posted: Jan 02, 2008 02:37 PM

FH and FMIL are KILLING me!

It only took him three months, but FH finally got around to telling his parents that we're engaged. And do you want know how my FH, the first-born only son, tells his parents that we're getting married?????

His mother was blocking off time on the calendar in the summer for vacation and he said, 'BTW, you need to keep this date open because we're getting married.'

Her response: 'I hope it's not going to be a big shin dig where I have to have my picture taken.'

And then I wonder why FH is fighting me on how many people to invite and how much money to spend on pictures/video...He gets it from his MOTHER!!!!!!!

Alexandra1028 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 02:39 PM

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Why would she say that?! you would think her only son she would want a huge wedding

Nelle5757 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 02:44 PM

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That isn't very nice to say. What are you going to do? I guess I would tell FMIL that she doesn't need to worry about anything, but showing up and avoid pictures. Its strange. What did FH say to that?

CMS Posted: Jan 02, 2008 02:53 PM

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Posted by Alexandra1028

Why would she say that?! you would think her only son she would want a huge wedding

I don't know how to describe it...the only thing I can say is that she is a big homebody. If she has a choice, she'd rather stay home and watch TV then go somewhere. I honestly can't think of a time that she hasn't complained when she's been invited somewhere. And I even asked FH if she was involved in his sister's wedding planning and he said not really.

The bad thing is that FH is very much like her. We've been invited to his cousin's house at least three times for Super Bowl parties and he always says no without asking because he knows I'll say, 'Let's go.'

And that's why we're running into problems with the wedding...I don't want to go overboard with the party, but I also don't want just 10 people sitting at a table doing nothing but eating brunch (which is what he would prefer).

This merging of two people is HARD!!!!!

CMS Posted: Jan 02, 2008 02:58 PM

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Posted by Nelle5757

That isn't very nice to say. What are you going to do? I guess I would tell FMIL that she doesn't need to worry about anything, but showing up and avoid pictures. Its strange. What did FH say to that?

I have to say I have never seen anyone hate having their picture taken as much as FMIL does and FH was like that when we first started dating. (This is why he readily admits that the photographer and videographer isn't important to him). So it's really just classic FMIL.

I guess I just have to take a step back and realize that every family is different and has their own idiosynchracies.

If she doesn't want to be in any pictures, then I'm not going to force the woman to be in them.

SparklingBride10 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 03:11 PM

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WOW!

Alexandra1028 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 03:12 PM

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Posted by CMS

Posted by Alexandra1028

Why would she say that?! you would think her only son she would want a huge wedding

I don't know how to describe it...the only thing I can say is that she is a big homebody. If she has a choice, she'd rather stay home and watch TV then go somewhere. I honestly can't think of a time that she hasn't complained when she's been invited somewhere. And I even asked FH if she was involved in his sister's wedding planning and he said not really.

The bad thing is that FH is very much like her. We've been invited to his cousin's house at least three times for Super Bowl parties and he always says no without asking because he knows I'll say, 'Let's go.'

And that's why we're running into problems with the wedding...I don't want to go overboard with the party, but I also don't want just 10 people sitting at a table doing nothing but eating brunch (which is what he would prefer).

This merging of two people is HARD!!!!!

Yea that is a tough situation. Im sure everything will work out and FH will have a great time! and I wouldnt worry about FMIL...its not worth the frustration!!lol

kabo0831 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 03:44 PM

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the drama of FMIL...... that wasnt very nice of her to say that

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Jan 02, 2008 03:47 PM

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Did anyone else miss the part about FH not tellin em they were engaged? I actually think thats the biggest issue there and no1 commented on it... Did i miss something?? Why would it have to be kept secret?

LegoBride Posted: Jan 02, 2008 03:55 PM

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Why was there a secret? That part I don't understand at all. I agree with Mazz. Also, now that they do know how could they not expect a big wedding? This makes no sense - I hope things work out

CMS Posted: Jan 02, 2008 05:05 PM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Did anyone else miss the part about FH not tellin em they were engaged? I actually think thats the biggest issue there and no1 commented on it... Did i miss something?? Why would it have to be kept secret?

Nah...you didn't miss anything, FH is just an idiot.

Our engagement got pushed into the background because I was diagnosed with lymphoma 5 days later. He saw that my family was bombarding me with suggestions and questions that I finally had to tell everyone at Thanksgiving that they need to cool it with wedding talk because right now I'm focusing solely on getting through treatment. So he decided not to say anything until we had a more definite idea of what we were doing.

As usual, he said I was right and that he should've said something when everyone was over the house on Saturday when I was there with him.

This is why he has no say in the wedding planning. LOL

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jan 02, 2008 05:16 PM

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Yikes! Tell her, don't worry the wedding is about us, not you!

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 02, 2008 06:04 PM

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why did he take so long to say you guys were engaged?????

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 02, 2008 06:05 PM

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OOoo o kay sorry didnt read because im a dummie...

but honestly focus on YOU please....

I understand where your comming from though. We may end up moving the wedding to LongIsland instead of Disney due to... the classic...'But your family doesnt fly'

HELLO theres a thing called 1. sucking it up and 2. A train!

longislandlibrarian Posted: Jan 02, 2008 06:08 PM

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I completely understand how things got crazzy right after the engagement with you getting diagnosed, etc. So first of all... KUDOS to you and FH for getting through all of that..... but after everything you 2 have been through.... FMIL could have been a BIT MORE ELATED about upcoming NUPTIALS!!!!!!! and then telling her LIKE THAT!!!!!! it's just kind of non-dramatic.............im sure you would have liked a bit more excitement!!!!!!!!!!!