FH and I are fighting... - EDIT w/ background, sorry - Long
Original post by Clover23
Did your FH (or will he) come with you to see the sample centerpieces?
ETA: He made the samples appointment for us for friday night, night before my shower, because he thought it would be a nice way for me to get 'in the mood' for the shower and get my mind off work. today he sends me an email as i'm in the middle of trying to leav emy office to go to the dr. and he's like 'could you find it in your heart to let me out of the appointment friday night? notre dame MIGHT be in the big east semi finals and GM might come down from boston and we'd try to go to the game'
So i said id call him bc i had to get out the door.
I call him and i tell him that i really wanted him to be there for the appt bc i value his input and he expressed a lot of opinions about the flowers the last time we went.
He FLIPPED out. I mean FLIPPED out. Screaming. Telling me that wasn't the 'right answer' and that he clearly signed himself up for a life of misery and what did he get himself into... on and on and on and on. And still going on. And I'm so upset because all i did was tell him honestly how i felt. I even suggested a COMPROMISE (wow what a foreign word) that if he really wanted to go to the game (which ND might not even make it to) he could call and change the appointment to a time more convenient for him to go with me, and that way we'd both be happy. but NOOOOOO that wasn't good enough.
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Posted by AngnShaun
i'd call that an extreme overreaction by him...
ITA FH came with me b/c he was only here for a short period of time and that meant we only had little time to spend together. Also we had the cake tasting before and he got a chocolate frosted brownie out of the deal.
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He will be going if they make it. And if they don't, he said he still may not come because now he 'resents the flowers for the fighting it has caused' Seriously???
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He will be going if they make it. And if they don't, he said he still may not come because now he 'resents the flowers for the fighting it has caused' Seriously???
Yup, that sounds all too familiar. My FH says stupid stuff like that all the time.
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Posted by JoanneAndJustin Edit: Oooh... that's different... I'd find out what the actual concern is, but I'd also make him go. He made his bed, he has to lie in it. He doesn't get to stop planning when something more fun comes along.
1. ND might not make it into the tournament 2. You can RESCHEDULE the appointment
How does looking at flowers for 45 minutes translate into a 'life of misery'...
ITA!! What's up with that? He makes it seem that he will never have another opportunity to watch a ND game. Also, he is the one who set up the appt in the first place, now he wants to renege? Oh no buddy, hell no!!
As for my FH, he is probably not coming with me coz he works most days and nights. Also, since he has been married before he doesn't want to deal with all the madness, he just tells me 'honey all I want to know is how much it is going to cost me'.
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He will be going if they make it. And if they don't, he said he still may not come because now he 'resents the flowers for the fighting it has caused' Seriously???
w t f... how do you resent flowers... wow seriously tell him to stop being a nancy...
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fh does not care for cps
he actually thinks we should do w/out flowers
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Posted by elp6421
Yes! Fh goes with me to all appointments!!!
same here
Posted by AngnShaun
i'd call that an extreme overreaction by him...
and.. ummm yeah!!!!
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my mom came with me.. cause he doesnt care about flowers and I didnt mind cause he has such a strong opinion on everything!!! lol. he was actually camping that weekend so he couldnt have even if he wanted to.. it didnt bother me but what would piss me off is if I showed him and then he hated it or had an opinion like we need to change it.. cause then I would have been like well get your *** there with me instead next time. lol..
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that sounds SOOOO strange??? *** is up FH butt??
im sorry you are going through this... so odd.... and very confusing.
FH prob will come to see the centerpieces. not sure if he actually wants to or not, but i have to make the apt, so i guess i will find out shortly haha
im actually gonna talk with him now and try to set up the apt. hehe
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Posted by Clover23
He will be going if they make it. And if they don't, he said he still may not come because now he 'resents the flowers for the fighting it has caused' Seriously???
OMG, my FH would totally say something like that. he blames the dumbest thing for any tiff we get into we are not having flower CP's, so i can't say what he did.. he came to the florist but most things with the wedding he would be fine with me deciding on alone. i just ask for his opinion so he can't tell me later that he hated it!
i am sorry he said just mean things....want me to come with you! i am sure it was just something said in the heat of the moment.
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he said ' that he clearly signed himself up for a life of misery' I would be more mad about that If he told you that he was going with you to see the flowers then he should be their. JMO I hate when people cancel plans, because something else, better in their minds came u
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Posted by mariedsgn
he said ' that he clearly signed himself up for a life of misery' I would be more mad about that If he told you that he was going with you to see the flowers then he should be their. JMO I hate when people cancel plans, because something else, better in their minds came u
exactly. and it's the stuff he said that made me most angry.
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he clearly signed himself up for a life of misery and what did he get himself into
this is not a very nice thing to say. i really am sorry you need to deal with this i cant believe you didnt explode !!!!!!!!!
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Sounds like my FH....he cancels plans with me all the time, even when it's stuff he says he wants to do. He tells me he wants to go to a wedding showcase to see what it's all about, and then when I find one convenient for him, he decides he doesn't want to go. Sorry yours flipped out on you like that
As for going to see flowers, I do not think FH will come to see the samples. All he cares about is that the centerpieces will be all orchids. Orchids make him happy.
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My FH doesn't care about the flowers so I bring my mom.
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no he did not - he had absolutely ho interest just like everything else to do with the wedding
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Posted by mariedsgn
he said ' that he clearly signed himself up for a life of misery' I would be more mad about that If he told you that he was going with you to see the flowers then he should be their. JMO I hate when people cancel plans, because something else, better in their minds came u
exactly. and it's the stuff he said that made me most angry.
ITA
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i'll go with you
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FH and I had the same fight - at least 10 times - once for each appt he came to! Try not to be too upset. Besides - they guys tend to get in the way at appts!
