FH and I just went through the Guest list and Realized ...

We don't know 90% of the people his dad is inviting. Meantime We know everyone my parents are inviting. Not to mention My parents are paying for it and his mother keeps saying she already married her daughter so she is done paying for weddings. Im so Pi s s ed. Im trying to the STD cards but i dont want to send them out to everyone just close family and OTG and its hard cause I don't know who talks to who on their list. I dont want to send to one and not the other and then someone get mad cause they don't think they are invited!!!!

maybe fiance can talk to your dad and tell them that your parents are only paying for the people that you two know?... thinking about it, if you invite people that dont know you two well maybe they wont show up anyways?

Send the STDs to who you want and don't worry about it. I sent out only a few and when FH was talking to his cousins and asked them if they received theirs, I just told them I was sent it to out of town people first so they could have the hotel information and they understood.

Or maybe they didn't, either way I'm fine!

I'd have Fiance talk to his parents & give them a set # of peeps they can invite and let them create an A & B list. Send STDs only to the A list only.

Since FMIL has already paid for a wedding, she should understand