i'm making the turkey this year..my mom is away on business and will be back on thurs...so i'm prepping the turkey....for her, my dad and sister
fh is going to his parents house.....
i'm not sure what we're going to do abt holidays....whats going to happen on xmas? and easter?
i'm feeling blue
update.... FH feels bad... but of course i wont make him choose...he's going to stick around and help me w/the stuffing and leave when the bird goes in the oven at about 1 pm...
hopefully we can have a big dinn nxt year w/his fam and mine... thx for the sweet words girls
kimmaymb20
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it will all work ok maybe you can alternate.
es2189
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aww i'm sorry this definitely caused problems for the first couple years for us, too. you just have to figure out a way of divvying things up so that both of you (and your families) feel okay with it. do your families live far from each other? could you spend part of the weekend with one side and part with the other?
good luck!!
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awwww dont worry hunny! Next year you will be together and not have to worry about being apart!!!!
me and FH spent so many holidays apart because of the distance/traffic thing (im in LI and hes in BK)...a normal trip (40 min) would take us 2 hours with holiday traffic so many times, we both had to go without seeing each other for the holidays...
don't worry - just think abou tnext year!!!!!!!!
NYYankeeGirl72
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I had the same problems....so now my mom cooks Thanksgiving dinner earlier in the day so it is done by like 3-4 pm and FH's family cooks later.
So we spend the morning and early after noon at my mom's, eat a bit and then we head to his parent's and eat there, too.
For the last holidays it has worked.
Don't worry it will all work out.
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I feel the same way - FH has to work so I'll only see him for a little while
The way we split is we go to my family for Thanksgiving and his for Christmas but the only reason it works is that his family invites my mom for Christmas too so I don't feel bad and I get to spend it with my mom and my FIL's
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thx guys...i am nervous abt nxt year and our whole lives actually.... 2 diff cultures cant really communicate 100% we live in jersey, they live in staten island
man..i'm getting sad!!!! need some tea and some zzzzzs...
i guess i'm just really upset bc i'm making the turkey...the big bird...its all on my hands!!!! and he wont be here...
latinaj
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lol staten island to jersey is like 45 mins..i'm being very dramatic today!
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Posted by latinaj
lol staten island to jersey is like 45 mins..i'm being very dramatic today!
Hey don't worry about it.....
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Same here. I've never spent a Thanksgiving with FH and it's sad. He goes down to FL with his parents and brother and I stay here with my family. I was supposed to go to FL this year, but I got really sad at the thought of not being with my family. NO idea what I'll do next year...
AngnShaun
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same here... im going to be in Vegas and FH will be here...
FutureCap
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i am in the same boat as you... it stinks i will prob end up there for dessert #2 later i guess since his parent's live right by us.... but i will be headed to my parents on queens alone. i feel your pain.
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Awwww Sorry your going through this. I promise that next year will be differnet. You guys wll just have to work it out and remember that your a Family and the two of you guys come first. I'll be thinking of you on Thursday.
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Future Mrs H
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I am not spending Thanksgiving with FH either. He is spending it with his mom who can leave the house for long periods at a time. They were invited to my moms for Thanksgiving but FMIL cant go.
RGEC47
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Don't worry girl! It will eventually all work out. FH and I alternate holidays, it was definitely hard at first but everyone understands now. We made a decision that after we're married we are going to start hosting the holidays. It will all work out, you'll see.
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IAM SURE YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT, Easter and thanskgiving I spent with my family- , And christmas afternoon we go to his aunt upstate- but i have X-mas eve and morning with mine!
christine2010
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you & your FH will be able to work it all out.
you have to discuss it between the two of & agree on a plan & stick to it. its easy when there are just the two of you if you have to commute on a holiday & go to both families.
MrsC2010
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aww yeah i know its tough. we used to split up during holidays but last year we decided to start rotating so that we could stay together. last year we did thanksgiving with my family so this year we will do it with his.
AdriandSteve
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yeeeah. This is going to be a tough situation for FH and I also. He's coming with me for this thanksgiving but it's just rough.
