in a church anymore. after we booked and everything.
Because he has to go do his confirmation AND FH job changes his hours weekly. They won't work with him to do this.
Does anyone have any advice? or what he can do? He has tried both my parish and his and their response is kinda like well that's your problem not mine.
He is an systems engineer with a 24 hours shifts.
What do I do?
Notwedyet08
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I don't know what to say..sorry!
Is it really important for you to get married in the church?
I'm not that religous; so it didn't really matter to me. Is it something that you can work around his schedule? Sorry :(
nicole320
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some priests will allow you to still get married in the church as long as you 'promise' to raise your children catholic. its really up to the priest-find an easygoing one if you can
halfbaked
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Posted by nicole320
some priests will allow you to still get married in the church as long as you 'promise' to raise your children catholic. its really up to the priest-find an easygoing one if you can
ITA. I'd look for a church with more lax rules. I think a few will marry you as long as one of you has had all your sacraments. Has to be, my parents were married in a Catholic Church and my mom's never received Communion or Confirmation.
BellaRegina
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I really dont mean to offend, but thats HORRIBLE! Just another reason why i'm not getting married in a church!
I wish you the best!
Richiesgirl
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I know it is horrible!! But I really want to get married in a church. I was in Catholic school for about 15 years and well I just want to get married in a church.
IMO opinion I won't feel like I am married if it's not done in a church. But let's see what happens ladies.
Thank you all for your advice.
bella_bride
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Do you have a specific church in mind? I don't have to get my confirmation and I getting married in a church.
meghan13
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I agree.
My church is not making me get confirmed
annabellagirl
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I gotta tell ya - the RC Church is a PAIN IN THE u know what!!!!!
Me and FH were planning to get married in a church but the whole annulment process is a nightmare so we are getting married at RH instead!
Seriously, the RCC rules SUCK and its really not fair!
Good luck!!
:(
Richiesgirl
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Mine is St Joseph's ...what church are you ladies getting married in ?
Moonmist09
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if you find a church that is more relaxed in its rules you can find one that will allow you to get married even though he has not yet had his confirmation. i have heard of several couples who have done this!
FutureMrsDe
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Its crazy that they will marry people of interfaith in church but if you are catholic they have to drive you crazy to get confirmed!
Ask them what would they do if he wasn't catholic!!
*** getting married at St. Rose of lima , they will let you get married there if it isnt your church. Also try Cure or Arces in Merrick.
bella_bride
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Mine is St Joseph's ...what church are you ladies getting married in ?
St Thomas the Apostle in West Hempstead
FutureMrsCat050412
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I've been to a bunch of weddings at the RH and they are beautiful! I understand how you feel, but if he can't do his confirmation then what other option is there??
Good Luck
Jenn7982
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I was going to get married in St Joseph's of ronkonkoma, but they gave me a hard time because I wasn't a member there. The priest was going to meet with me, but he made me so upset on the phone the way he talked to me, that I canceled. I ended up going to the church i grew up in Holy Cross. It was a dream talking to them compared to st josephs. My fh isn't confirmed either, but they never said two words about it. They just want proof of baptism. I dunno if this is the st joes you were looking into, or where you are located, but the church I'm at now is Holy Cross in Nesconset. good luck!
FutureMrsZ
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We are getting married at St. Martin of Tours in Bethpage and they are actually really great. I did receive confirmation but there was a mix up and my records were lost (in Florida). Our priest said it wouldn't prevent us from being married and not to stress. The site fee is reasonable and the church is accommodating. Hope that helps.
SeptemberBride2012
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FYI - My mother is the director of Religious Ed in our parish and you DO NOT have to be confirmed in order to get married in any RC Church.... my FH is not confirmed either, but is a member of another RC parish and it is not a problem.
Confirm this with the diocese but I have already asked this question myself.
HTH!
MNM0805
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We are getting married at St Rose of Lima in Massapequa and all they wanted us to show proof of is that we were both baptized. You could try them. They do marry non-parishioners!
IrishAli
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We are having a Church ceremony, not a full mass. I have made all of my sacraments, but FH has only been baptized Catholic. It was no problem at Queen of Martyrs in Centerport. My friends got married at St. Philips in Northport, and she isn't even baptized!
Good luck!
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meghan13
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Im getting married all the way in Riverhead. Saint Isidores.
