He told me we can't afford to get an apartment after we get married, and will have to live where he's living now, which is with his brother, sister, and niece.
We got into a big fight about it because it was not what we had planned for, and he acted as though I already knew about this. There is absolutely no privacy in that house. HIs room is in the basement where the washer/dryer are, and is the only way to get outside to the driveway. I get along great with his family, but I know once I live with them they're going to drive me nuts! He says it's for a month, but I'm scared that it's going to be for a longer period of time.
I'm so upset. Living here also means that I have to leave my dog behind with my parents. His landlord doesn't allow pets. I know many people think it's silly that I'm stressing about my dog, but he's the closest thing to a child that I have! I feel so depressed now. Silly me envisioned the three of us in a new apartment and starting a new life once we got married.
ETA: Would it be too weird if I decided to stay home with my parents and dog until we find a place? It will supposedly be for a month, his lease is up in October anyway (but he said that last year too and ended up re-signing because his brother and sister didn't look hard enough for a new place).
Michi
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That s*cks!! Where do you live? I know someone in Queens who is renting a basement apartment..
Nina1010
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So sorry. If it really is only a temp situation, I would mention that you're going to remain home until you both find a place, since its only for a month. Call his bluff so you won't have to leave your dog, but still spend some nights with him. Maybe it'll motivate him to speed up the process.
