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FH gave me the biggest scare last night and I am still trying to calm down...

Original post by JassyandOscar

I usually do not like to write about bad things that are happening, but I feel so alone and helpless right now, I just can't stop thinking. Last night I spoke with FH after returning from my cousin's daughter's first b-day. When I called him, he told me that he was in Coconut Grove (thant's in Miami--FH lives in MIA, I am in Philly). I could tell by his voice that he was drunk and i called him out on it. I knew that he had been rinking at home earlier because he had told me that he had been stressed out so he bought himself a bottle of grey goose and sugar free red bull and had been drinking in the house. Now FH does not normally drink and he rarely goes out so of course I was very concerned when I heard what he was up to. I became even more concerned when he told me that he was by himself and then started going on about how lonely he felt, that he had no true friends he could count on etc. I have never heard him talk like that and he really started to sacre me. I told him to call me back when he was going to leave and to walk around a bit. That was at 9:30pm. 11:00pm and still no call. I called him and he told me that he couldn't find his care. He sounded so drunk and slurred. He told me he was scared and just wanted to go to sleep on the ground. I was freaking out. Being a doctor and all, all I could think is that if he past out on the ground completely intoxicated, he would end up in rhabdo, with muscle breakdown and eventual acute kidney failure and who knows even respiratory depression/arrest if he wasn't found soon enough (like my usual friday-saturday male patients). I kept trying to get him to wake up and all and i felt so helpless because I am so far away. I thankfully found his niece's number and called her and told her what was happening. The hardest part though is that FH was so far gone, he couldn't even tell me where exactly he was. Thankfully his sister was able to find him at 4:00 am in the morning and he is okay. But he went back today to try to find his car and could not find it. He searched for over 10hours and no luck. FH isn't concerned about the car but his life is in the trunk because all his tools (over 25,000 worth) were in the car. He of course is devastated and ashamed. The scariest part about it all is that when I talked to him today, he told me that he didn't even remember how he got to the Grove, he doesn't remeber driving, or anything!!! Hearing that and knowing that the Grove is over 30minutes away from the house I can not help but cry everytime I think that I could have lost him, because it is a miracle that he didn't get himself killed.
FH and I are very spiritual (especially FH being a believer in los santos) and I almost feel like there is a bad spirit over him. He when today to his Babalo to get seen. I just hope everything works out. Your prayers are appreciated. I am sorry for the long post, but I needed to talk
Sept07Bride Posted:

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dplehat Posted:

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So sorry you had to go through that. I hope FH is able to work everything out.
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MrsMichel07 Posted:

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jasmine... big hug to you and your FH.

I met you and him at a show and two of you are so sweet together. I am sure your FH was just haveing a really bad day.... as we all do- some worst than others.

God doesn't give us anything we can not handle.

I wish him as well as you all the best.


sugar4spc Posted:

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Im glad he is ok. A car can be replaced. Good luck with everything im here to vent if needed
Pencils Posted:

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I don't know what you mean by 'his care' but I have some ideas. That's very frightening behavior. Your FH needs to see someone, and soon, and not just a spiritual advisor. It sounds like he might be seriously depressed, and have a problem with alcohol. Just because he doesn't drink often it doesnt mean he can't have a problem with it. Drinking alone when depressed isn't even a red flag, it's a cry for help. He needs help, and soon. I'm not a medical professional, but I am a recovering alcoholic, and I know the signs of trouble. Please, please, get him some help ASAP before something terrible happens. If he's driving while intoxicated, or even just in such a bad state that he can't remember, he could kill not only himself, but others. Innocent people are at risk here.

Good luck. Please let us know how it goes.
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