FH has issues!!!

Ok so FH has sleeping issues, he doesn't sleep through the night. EVER...so I've gotten kind of used to it at this point, but some nights he likes to change it up a bit!!! lol
Last night I was awoken by a loud scream. So i jump up and i'm like 'W T F just happened?!?!' So he goes 'You're going to kill me'
HAHA so i was like umm in my sleep?? He's like I swear you're trying to kill me. I was like whoa dude, you have some major issues and i think you need to see a doctor lol....So at 1:57AM this morning i was trying to convince him that I'm not going to kill him and that i just want to sleep lol And finally we both fell back asleep and woke up and he was still mad at me.
FH had a very rough childhood, so he thinks thats why he cant sleep anymore. When he was younger he would hear his parents fighting every night and he would see horrible things that he wouldnt even wish on his worst enemy...so he always had nightmares...so i understand that part...
But he refuses to do anything about it and I have to suffer everynight with him talking and yelling in his sleep lol

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Posted by dajc23

Ok so FH has sleeping issues, he doesn't sleep through the night. EVER...so I've gotten kind of used to it at this point, but some nights he likes to change it up a bit!!! lol
Last night I was awoken by a loud scream. So i jump up and i'm like 'W T F just happened?!?!' So he goes 'You're going to kill me'
HAHA so i was like umm in my sleep?? He's like I swear you're trying to kill me. I was like whoa dude, you have some major issues and i think you need to see a doctor lol....So at 1:57AM this morning i was trying to convince him that I'm not going to kill him and that i just want to sleep lol And finally we both fell back asleep and woke up and he was still mad at me.
FH had a very rough childhood, so he thinks thats why he cant sleep anymore. When he was younger he would hear his parents fighting every night and he would see horrible things that he wouldnt even wish on his worst enemy...so he always had nightmares...so i understand that part...
But he refuses to do anything about it and I have to suffer everynight with him talking and yelling in his sleep lol

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I'm so sorry, that's really rough. I definitely think going to a doctor would help him..... but, it's so hard to convince a man to go to a doctor!!!

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by dajc23

Ok so FH has sleeping issues, he doesn't sleep through the night. EVER...so I've gotten kind of used to it at this point, but some nights he likes to change it up a bit!!! lol
Last night I was awoken by a loud scream. So i jump up and i'm like 'W T F just happened?!?!' So he goes 'You're going to kill me'
HAHA so i was like umm in my sleep?? He's like I swear you're trying to kill me. I was like whoa dude, you have some major issues and i think you need to see a doctor lol....So at 1:57AM this morning i was trying to convince him that I'm not going to kill him and that i just want to sleep lol And finally we both fell back asleep and woke up and he was still mad at me.
FH had a very rough childhood, so he thinks thats why he cant sleep anymore. When he was younger he would hear his parents fighting every night and he would see horrible things that he wouldnt even wish on his worst enemy...so he always had nightmares...so i understand that part...
But he refuses to do anything about it and I have to suffer everynight with him talking and yelling in his sleep lol

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I'm so sorry, that's really rough. I definitely think going to a doctor would help him..... but, it's so hard to convince a man to go to a doctor!!!

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OMG i know..he refuses to seek professional help for anything!!

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Posted by Espo22

I think that until he deals with those issues he wont be able to sleep well at night...Its probably things from his past that he doesn't like to think about or face but you can't run from things like that and they'll always come back to haunt you until you face it. Maybe talking to a therapist can help

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I know, i tell him everyday just to go talk to someone..but hes so stubborn he thinks it will just go away...hes going to be 27 yrs old and his family issues have been going on for that many years..

He really needs to see someone about this. Not sleeping will affect his health, his mental well being and a lot of other things...but most importantly his health!!!

My dad was diagnosed with sleep apnea recently & since he's been sleeping better (with the help of a machine) - he's lost 5 pounds, his blood pressure went down & he doesn't fall asleep EVERYWHERE... Getting a good amount of sleep is VERY important for your health...

awww i hope he decides to get some help with this soon, its gotta be really tough for both of you... my FH has issues with driving in the car with anyone.. even himself.. he was in a bad accident when he was little and now he is a paranoid driver and passenger.. he gets such bad anxiety.. so i kind of know how youre feeling. he wont do anything about it either, i am working on getting him to admit he has an issue though and he is starting to realize it i think.. good luck hun

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by Espo22

I think that until he deals with those issues he wont be able to sleep well at night...Its probably things from his past that he doesn't like to think about or face but you can't run from things like that and they'll always come back to haunt you until you face it. Maybe talking to a therapist can help

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I know, i tell him everyday just to go talk to someone..but hes so stubborn he thinks it will just go away...hes going to be 27 yrs old and his family issues have been going on for that many years..

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yeah i know people who do the same thing and it never goes away. Somehow he needs to understand that an issue that has been haunting him for YEARS wont just one day go away.

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Posted by blu6385

i dont think it will stop until he sees a doctor ... my FH sometimes yells in his sleep ... like this morning ... i was about to get up and then all of a sudden he yelled somthing and i am like OMG what ... and hes just sleeping ... and the again while i am getting ready he yells again and i am like what again hes sleeping ...

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Yea i deal with that too..I just stopped answering him when he says anything, b/c he usually doesnt remember what he says or he just starts mumbling

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by blu6385

i dont think it will stop until he sees a doctor ... my FH sometimes yells in his sleep ... like this morning ... i was about to get up and then all of a sudden he yelled somthing and i am like OMG what ... and hes just sleeping ... and the again while i am getting ready he yells again and i am like what again hes sleeping ...

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Yea i deal with that too..I just stopped answering him when he says anything, b/c he usually doesnt remember what he says or he just starts mumbling

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so does my FH .. if i ask him right away he mumles and the if i ask him when he waked up ... hes like i yelled what did i say ...

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Posted by krissyB2b

awww i hope he decides to get some help with this soon, its gotta be really tough for both of you... my FH has issues with driving in the car with anyone.. even himself.. he was in a bad accident when he was little and now he is a paranoid driver and passenger.. he gets such bad anxiety.. so i kind of know how youre feeling. he wont do anything about it either, i am working on getting him to admit he has an issue though and he is starting to realize it i think.. good luck hun

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I am like that with others driving...I seriously will think about it constantly ahead of time like ok they're going to drive, it will be ok dont think about it...then in the car my stomach is in knots the whole time and a nervous wreck, i sit there and watch their every move. It drives Fh nuts bc i air brake and dont even realize it, he'll point it out and say AHHH stop braking with your foot i see you lol. Im better with Fh though than alot of other ppl bc im constantly in the car with him so im used to his driving, although ill still freak out at moments. I wont show others though how afraid i am, i try to stay calm, but inside im a wreck lol

i ditto with everyone that he needs to talk to someone about this...


yeah it stin ks and he wont liek to admit he needs help, but there is a reason why hes not sleeping well and why hes still fearful.