Ok, so FH's good friend is getting married next August. He asked FH to be one of the groomsmen. Of course he said yes without even thinknig about it. When he told me I pointed out that being in teh bridal party comes with responsibilities and that he wouldn't be able to be with me for like 1/2 the night between pictures and introductions and dancing. So then he was like Ok i'll tell him I won't do it. Not wanting to sound selfish, I told him not to do that because he wants him there so it wouldn't be fair to him. But then I told him I wasn't gonig to go. His reply was that he won't be able to enjoy himself wknowing that Im not there with him. And honestly..I know I would be all pissed off that night wondering what was going on (I know he wouldnt do anything bad, I just mean that he'll be there and I wont be) I dont want to go to this wedding and be sitting by myself for a majority of the time. I dont do well with people I dont know. ANd no joke, Im not going to know a single person there. I know this is coming off as selfish but I can't think of any other solutions...either way Im gonig to be miserable. Sorry so long!
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honestly i think that u should both go..he wont not be with u half the night, taking pics isnt that much time for groomsmen and dancing he will be dancing with you and only the bride and groom go around and talk to everybody!!! its just one night and if its his good friend i would consider going
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I wouldn't want his friend to suffer from this but I am just soooo uncomfortable around people I dont know!
eddies girl
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so am i..im very shy...but is this groom going ot be going to ur wedding?
cds58019
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yeah he's in our BP lol And I wouldnt want his FW pulling something like this with uot wedding but I just cant seem to get over this.
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ugh I know exactly what you mean, I've had bad experiences with being left alone and FH being in the wedding party, I honestly would stay home next time and not go to the wedding. I know this is the wrong advice and answer to give you but it is what I would do
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Being that my FH is a social manfly I have been to events where I did not know a SOUL! But he didnt care he made SURE that he was sitting by me and near me by the end of the night.
Girl...u never know maybe during the dinner you will not be able to sit next to him but after that everyone pretty much sits where ever they want. And maybe the bride and groom have a sweetheart table and the BP has their own table then u can sit with him.
U do not sound selfish...just go and enjoy!
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I say you go. You wouldn't want his friend to do the same to you. The bride and groom will greet everyone. All he has to do is take pics. and then he will be with you all night. I wouldn't not go. You will miss out. You never know you might just have a really good time.
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I am super duper shy, especially when I am around people I dont know. I will honestly sit there the entire night and not say a word. SO i understand where you are coming from. But this is FH's good friend who is also in your BP, I think that it would be wrong not to go since he is in yours. A majority of the pictures will be taken before the reception, so I dont think that he won't be with you for a majority of the night. Tell him that you want to make sure that he realizes how uncomfortable you will be and that he will be there for you whenever he can be.
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I was in the saaaaaaaaaaame postition this summer. I made a friend in the same boat as me at the RD. There's bound to be at least one person who needs a friend. The CH might suck if this 'friend' bails on you like mine did (b!tch), but what I did was grab champagne after champagne, some food and my cell phone and chit chatted with some friends during the CH. In my case the bride and groom forced me up to the bridal suite to be with FH and everyone else for the second part of the CH, but I ended up having a really good time. Don't not go, but have a few drinks to loosen ya up and then everything will be fine.
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Posted by AMGBride2008
I was in the saaaaaaaaaaame postition this summer. I made a friend in the same boat as me at the RD. There's bound to be at least one person who needs a friend. The CH might suck if this 'friend' bails on you like mine did (b!tch), but what I did was grab champagne after champagne, some food and my cell phone and chit chatted with some friends during the CH. In my case the bride and groom forced me up to the bridal suite to be with FH and everyone else for the second part of the CH, but I ended up having a really good time. Don't not go, but have a few drinks to loosen ya up and then everything will be fine.
I agree with this - plenty of champagne and food will help! And you might even get an idea for your own wedding!
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i definitely think you should go - i have been in the same position and i know it stinks but i have been in SOOOO many weddings and if FH said he wouldnt come i PROBABLY would have killed him, lol
it will be fine - brides and grooms are VERY aware of this now and it is not how it used to be ( no more dais etc.)
cds58019
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Thanks girls, its nice to see that I'm not the only one in this position. I guess if all you girls survived, I probably can too!
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I have been in the same position too.. but think if someone did this in your wedding.. or if your fh's best man backed out cause his fw didnt want to be alone at the wedding... you would be hurt... dont hurt someone else the same way.... Definitely have a few drinks and it might not be soo bad afterall.
