FH is too cute

So the obsession of the week has been my wedding dress. Just really nervous about the whole thing. Saw a really nice dress on a 2008 bride that I loved. Showed FH and he said ok, get that one. Told him that it's best to try them on and I'll figure it out when I get there. He gets this perplexed look on his face and says, you aren't going to show me? Told him heck no, groom never sees the wedding dress before the wedding day. He looked so sad!!! Told him he's part of every other aspect and this is supposed to be a surprise. He's killing me.

Anyone else have an super involved FH?

He's not involved in EVERY detail of the wedding (he could care less about what types of flowers I use) but strangely, he wants to go shopping with me for my dress. I may actually let him come. We're not traditional and he's involved in every aspect of my life...so why should this be any different? Any opinions. Idk yet...

that is so nice of him!

my fh is involved but i wouldn't say super involved. i think he would rather just be de-briefed on things. He reminds me of my supervisor at work, he knows the work is getting done, just doesn't need all the details of how it happend..lol

Not sure if he cares about exactly what the flowers look like, as long as they match our color scheme.

As far as taking your FH dress shopping with you, I actually did see that on a wedding show once. What she did was try on like 6 dresses but didn't tell FH which one she really wanted. She brought her mother into the dressing room to help her make the final decision that way there was still a surprise the day of the wedding.

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Posted by Goldie39

that is so nice of him!

my fh is involved but i wouldn't say super involved. i think he would rather just be de-briefed on things. He reminds me of my supervisor at work, he knows the work is getting done, just doesn't need all the details of how it happend..lol

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OMG that's a great way to explain it! We discuss what we like, we agree on something and then I make it happen. He wants to be part of the decision process but looks to me to figure out how to make it happen.

FH is super-involved. I can pick all the flowers I want as long as they match the color scheme. HOWEVER, he's traditional in that he doesn't want to see the dress...

We go to all the appointments together, but when it comes to the decorating I give him options and we decide on the one we both like the most.

Kind of like a boss who needs to know what steps you'll take to get the job done, but he's been more relaxed now that it's all coming together.

I love that FH comes to appointments.. he helps me stay on task and not get too taken over by all the 'wedding bling' as I call it... all the extras. I'll buy anything if given the chance.. And he has a clear idea about what HE wants, whereas I change my mind all the time... so in incorporating his vision into our vision it helps to have a starting point because I like EVERYthing.

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Posted by JoanneAndJustin

I love that FH comes to appointments.. he helps me stay on task and not get too taken over by all the 'wedding bling' as I call it... all the extras. I'll buy anything if given the chance.. And he has a clear idea about what HE wants, whereas I change my mind all the time... so in incorporating his vision into our vision it helps to have a starting point because I like EVERYthing.

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OMG exactly. I'm like what do you mean we don't need a slipper basket. If I suggest something that doesn't fit his idea or budget, i get the 'look'. I got the look when I said I wanted an aisle runner, but think I've finally talked him into it. Thank god so many people post pics on here so I can show him what I'm talking about.

OMG haha, my fh thinks im completely CRAZY. He's like, what the h e ll are cry packs? No one has ever heard of these things other than us ladies on liw haha. He knows whats needed and knows whats not needed. Fortunately, I'm veryyyy crafty and am doing pretty much all that stuff (programs, menus, cry packs, invites, e-party centerpieces...everything) myself. So at least that saves some money. I've actually started a small business doing these types of things...and once again, he thinks im crazy that I love it enough to do it for other people

Fh's...what can be said about them?

FH has been pretty involved up to this point. We've gone to everything together. This week is the first time I'm going to do some stuff alone. Hes giving me a hard time about flowers and I just keep telling him as long as I stay within the budget, there shouldnt be a problem so I'm gonna go myself, get prices, then talk to him about everything.

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Posted by jenny8484

FH has come w/ me to appointments at halls and other vendors, but he lets me do the research lol

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I know. He laughs at me for always being on here, but loves all the research I'm getting done and all the ideas I am getting from anyone. We're going to be hitting up Paper Presentation in the fall to find our invite paper. He's totally psyched. Would never have known it existed if it wasn't for this site. Love doing research!

aww that was so sweet

My FH is involved in everything. I hate dragging him around especially since Im home this summer and can do everything during the day but he always wants to be involved in the process. Im glad he does cause its both of our special day

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Posted by christine2010

my FH is driving me crazy. 1st he says all i care about is that we have a band & you can do everything with your sister. ok so my sister & i start deciding on things (location, colors, dresses... etc) & now its a whole different story. he'll 'happen' to over hear us talking & then he started butting in. so tonight i am going to sit & tell him either hes involved or hes not cause he is making me crazy. its very hard for me to decide on things as it is then he cames around & wants to change things.

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This is how FH started out....no no you can handle it. Then as I started throwing out different ideas he became more verbal in his wants. Now we both come up with different ideas for a certain aspect of the wedding and we figure out what we both like. It's really been a lot of fun and we're learning a lot about each other which I didn't think would happen. Good luck with your talk.

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Posted by amandah75

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Posted by christine2010

my FH is driving me crazy. 1st he says all i care about is that we have a band & you can do everything with your sister. ok so my sister & i start deciding on things (location, colors, dresses... etc) & now its a whole different story. he'll 'happen' to over hear us talking & then he started butting in. so tonight i am going to sit & tell him either hes involved or hes not cause he is making me crazy. its very hard for me to decide on things as it is then he cames around & wants to change things.

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This is how FH started out....no no you can handle it. Then as I started throwing out different ideas he became more verbal in his wants. Now we both come up with different ideas for a certain aspect of the wedding and we figure out what we both like. It's really been a lot of fun and we're learning a lot about each other which I didn't think would happen. Good luck with your talk.

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just to fill you in the talk went really well. we decided on some additional possible dates & comprimised on the alot of the issues. i seriously think that if we can make it threw wedding planning we can make it threw anything.lol.