FH! Kind of long...

He is annoying me so much right now! First we had a big fight this afternoon because I told him that I was trying to make him happy...his response? 'You don't need to make me happy! Don't do anythng out of your way I don't need it!' Now we just got back from the photographers and he was trashing LIW because I said I was going to come on to ask your opinion...he says you sit on that thing all day! It's so stupid! You would make fun of me if I was on a website all day long! He doesn't get that I am just seeking advice or giving advice to people who are in the same boat as me...he says it is my day and what he says doesn't matter so that's why he has stopped caring....he is so incredibly annoying!

I know this is awful but sometimes I wonder if we are a good match, if I wouldn't be better suited on my own or with someone who shares the same interests....it seems like everything I am interested in, he finds a way to bash, be it CSI (falls asleep everytime I put it on) My space (calls me immature and to grow up) or LIW (tells me to stop obsessing over the wedding) Meanwhile I make a genuine effort to show an interest in things he likes, mainly sports because that is all his feeble brain thinks of!

Sorry, I needed to vent...vent over...

Ugh, I’m so sorry. You're right in being upset over this especially if he thinks ALL of your interests are 'stupid' etc... He may not like a TV show that you love but to bash everything is excessive and will definitely hurt anyone's feelings! I suggest you talk to him about it. Tell him it's not only the brides day, it's a day for the both of your to plan and enjoy together. I understand if he doesn't want to participate in gluing the cry packs together...but there must be something wedding related that he can enjoy doing with you....the limos...Honeymoon....wedding night hotel....catering....tuxedo's...and other manlyish things.

I would be very upset if FI didn't try to enjoy any of the things I enjoyed doing before I met him. In a relationship, two different ppl come together to form a caring partnership filled with love, compassion, understanding and compromise. I think that you definitely need to talk to him about how he's making you feel. Explain to him that bashing your interests is hurtful and unnecessary.
Good Luck! FM me if you ever need to talk

Im sorry Let me ask you a question tho...did you guys discuss the photographers before you came on LIW? He really shouldnt be bashing you because you like to go online and talk with people who share the same situation as you. The only way I can see him being partial right is if you are ALWAYS online and when he wants to spend time with you you turn him away to come online. Other than that...if you want to get or give advice online he shouldnt have a problem with it. And if you try to share his interest..and he doesnt do the same for you...then hes wrong not you.

From what I hear it gets real stressful the closer you get to the wedding. Fh is prob just feeling neglected. try to find something that you too can do together that he will enjoy. I admit I used to get so mad when fh would sit in front of the comp playing an online role playing game. And he would get mad when I told him he was on too much. He wanted me to at least try playing so I made an effort and now I am a full fledged online dork . I doubt your fh will want to join in on LIW but there has to be something you can do together. Good luck and sorry he is being a meanie

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Posted by bettybcafe

Im sorry Let me ask you a question tho...did you guys discuss the photographers before you came on LIW? He really shouldnt be bashing you because you like to go online and talk with people who share the same situation as you. The only way I can see him being partial right is if you are ALWAYS online and when he wants to spend time with you you turn him away to come online. Other than that...if you want to get or give advice online he shouldnt have a problem with it. And if you try to share his interest..and he doesnt do the same for you...then hes wrong not you.

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I am so sorry this is happening....if it makes you feel any better I had a similar disagreement with FH a couple of months ago.....we talked about it and he admitted that he thinks I turn him away....for the internet...............I am so embarrassed to admit this but I feel I need to so that you understand that you are NOT THE ONLY ONE ON HERE who has dealt with this.
I also think that what you are going through is valid, and a very normal growing pain.

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Posted by bettybcafe

Im sorry Let me ask you a question tho...did you guys discuss the photographers before you came on LIW? He really shouldnt be bashing you because you like to go online and talk with people who share the same situation as you. The only way I can see him being partial right is if you are ALWAYS online and when he wants to spend time with you you turn him away to come online. Other than that...if you want to get or give advice online he shouldnt have a problem with it. And if you try to share his interest..and he doesnt do the same for you...then hes wrong not you.

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He picked this photographer/videographer because he feel in love with the video they did...so he did particapate in that aspect...what i wanted to ask was kind of video related...what you would prefer if the videographer went to the parents and bridal party to film the speeches to you with the mike or if you would prefer he did random because I am torn....he said he would prefer family only...but I said I wanted to see...I guess in that way I was being selfish...because he said he liked one thing and I said let me go on LIW to see what the girls think....but...I dunno! Blech! I got him into watching Heroes with me...that counts I guess!

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Posted by bettybcafe

Im sorry Let me ask you a question tho...did you guys discuss the photographers before you came on LIW? He really shouldnt be bashing you because you like to go online and talk with people who share the same situation as you. The only way I can see him being partial right is if you are ALWAYS online and when he wants to spend time with you you turn him away to come online. Other than that...if you want to get or give advice online he shouldnt have a problem with it. And if you try to share his interest..and he doesnt do the same for you...then hes wrong not you.

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I am so sorry this is happening....if it makes you feel any better I had a similar disagreement with FH a couple of months ago.....we talked about it and he admitted that he thinks I turn him away....for the internet...............I am so embarrassed to admit this but I feel I need to so that you understand that you are NOT THE ONLY ONE ON HERE who has dealt with this.
I also think that what you are going through is valid, and a very normal growing pain.

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Thank you!

AWWWW I am sorry you guys had a fight. You are right, you should both take interest in the other's hobbies. It's a nice way to support eachother. It's also nice to find a medium ground and find something that you both love to do.

There is no need for him to bash your hobbies, when you support his. Hang in there, maybe he is starting to feel some wedding pressure now. I happen to love coming on here to ask for advice, opinions, etc. It's a nice place to come, especially when FH is at work, and I need ideas about the wedding. Plus, you make really great friends here.

IM sorry-boys are just like that. FH does that to me all the time..though as much as he b!tches and moans about me being on LIW all the time, its more often then not that when we cant decide on something or need opinions he tells me to find out what 'the girls on LIW' think.
FH is interested in the wedding and truly wants to know what is going on but to them I think the wedding is more of a 'girl' thing and they just dont understand how we can be so excited. They dont grow up dreaming of their wedding...I would consider this before anything else

boys will be boys