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FH mom and MY mom got n to a huge fight - Edit

Original post by luvabul

our parents are paying for the wedding...... and they just got in to a HUGE argument..

FH mom and my MOM

48 days left till the wedding...this is SOOO upsetting...

I'm having a 350 person wedding
150 are my friends and family and FH side is 150 ... ...TODAY FH mom is like we want to add 50 more ppl
and she doesnt wana pay...she said its the responsibility of the girls family and her parents to pay anyways...so now that weve added more ppl u can take care of it no? is there a problem?

and my mom is SO UPSET!!

i hate FMIL


EDIT: FH wants nothing to do with this...he staying 'neutral' otherwise me and him start fighting too...cuz he takes his families side, i take mine...and it *****... tonight we are going over to my inlaws house to talk.....

LATER she said she can add 50 ppl and she agrees to pay for them....'since we cant afford it' ..since it will be a 'burden on you' she says to my mom....HELLO ***** dont u think my parents feel offended now?? its not about the money at ALL... my parents have covered A LOT...its a matter of principal and ettiquette.... fine she may cover 50 ppl...what about invitations, centerpieces, cake, etc ...THAT I HAVE to cover... shes so stupid!!!!!
Drv0716 Posted:

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rkl1130 Posted:

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What does FH say about it?

I am so sorry

But the girls are right--you have to put your foot down somehow because otherwise this could be start of many more situations like this.
LB and DC Posted:

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you absolutely have to put your foot down!!! this is your wedding, not hers, and you already divided it very fairly, 1/2 and 1/2. besides, it's too close to the wedding to start adding more people one. did you send your invites out yet? what's your RSVP date?

tricia3381 Posted:

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thats really rude!

dawnbridetobe Posted:

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Posted by LB and DC

you absolutely have to put your foot down!!! this is your wedding, not hers, and you already divided it very fairly, 1/2 and 1/2. besides, it's too close to the wedding to start adding more people one. did you send your invites out yet? what's your RSVP date?


I agree! Isn't your rsvp date in like 2 weeks?? FFIL just told me there is someone HE wants to invite and he's looking for her address??? Ummm the rsvp date is in 1 week-plus you haven't seen her in like 10 years-me and Fh don't even know her-So rude!! My situation is only an extra 2, I can only imagine how you feel w/50 more people!!
lilangel Posted:

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He strong hun we are here for you.

Let us know which car to key and which house to egg. We will take it from there lol
dgirl Posted:

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Wow. How does FH feel about it? 50 people less than 2 months before is signifigant! Can your hall even accomodate them? I know if we did that our hall wouldn't have even had a place to put them because we booked a room that was appropriate size for the number of people we estimated.

I'm sorry you are going through this!

Here are some hugs.
kitty1224 Posted:

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Have your FH talk to her, I mean thats alot of people to add, more CP more place cards/menus and so on. I think that she has some balls 1 month and a half before the wedding to pull this. Stand your ground and have FH handle it. Good Luck!

luvabul Posted:

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egging sounds good lol
it will atleast relieve some frustration
Roed522 Posted:

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Sweetie I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I just don't understand FMIL's sometimes, I know mine is just as bad and we've had way too many fights because of her. I'm really starting to think that they see us as the enemy, we're like these horrible snakes that are taking away their little boys. Can't live with them, can't beat em up upside the head Hope you and FH work it all out.
Jazmin Posted:

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Jazmin Posted:

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Posted by JIFFY

B@LLS!! Tell your mom to invite 50 friends to the Rehearsal dinner. Then have her tell your FMIL- that's not a problem is it?

My FMIL told me that she invited two people to the wedding at the Rehearsal Dinner. I told her she was going to look like an @ss when she had to uninvite them bc it was completely inappropriate.

You better have FH talk to his mother and nip this right now bc it's only going to get worse. You too. Don't be all- oh no, what do i do now? Remember girl, this is the first of many occasions. births, baptisms, birthdays, communions.....and the list goes on and on. Put her in her place now or she will never have a place and she will pull this cr@p for the rest of your life.

I say just ask her nicely- FMIL, if you show me your testies i'll add the 50 people- flop em' out!



well stated!
Mooshyboo Posted:

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I was just thinking you are getting married in July Isnt cutting it a little close to add 50 extra people ~ Did you send your invites out yet and if not did you order extra invites?

You are getting married July 4th ~ when is your RSVP date - you would have to get these invites out yesterday!

FH & I are paying for our wedding (FH parents are helping out alittle bit) but I gave them both sets of parents a cutoff - and it was before my invitations were ordered...

I am sorry this is going on - I feel bad for your parents 50 people is a lot of people it is not like it is a family of 5...

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