FH mom and MY mom got n to a huge fight - Edit

luvabul Posted: May 16, 2007 11:36 PM

FH mom and MY mom got n to a huge fight - Edit

our parents are paying for the wedding...... and they just got in to a HUGE argument..

FH mom and my MOM

48 days left till the wedding...this is SOOO upsetting...

I'm having a 350 person wedding
150 are my friends and family and FH side is 150 ... ...TODAY FH mom is like we want to add 50 more ppl
and she doesnt wana pay...she said its the responsibility of the girls family and her parents to pay anyways...so now that weve added more ppl u can take care of it no? is there a problem?

and my mom is SO UPSET!!

i hate FMIL

EDIT: FH wants nothing to do with this...he staying 'neutral' otherwise me and him start fighting too...cuz he takes his families side, i take mine...and it *****... tonight we are going over to my inlaws house to talk.....

LATER she said she can add 50 ppl and she agrees to pay for them....'since we cant afford it' ..since it will be a 'burden on you' she says to my mom....HELLO ***** dont u think my parents feel offended now?? its not about the money at ALL... my parents have covered A LOT...its a matter of principal and ettiquette.... fine she may cover 50 ppl...what about invitations, centerpieces, cake, etc ...THAT I HAVE to cover... shes so stupid!!!!!

JMM7876 Posted: May 16, 2007 11:38 PM

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oh no!! sorry to hear that...I am sure everything will work out...try not to stress out...

Kelly79 Posted: May 16, 2007 11:39 PM

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Jkiesel Posted: May 16, 2007 11:42 PM

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wow...........what a nice situation she put you in..............good luck! Hope things work out.

MrsRallis07 Posted: May 16, 2007 11:44 PM

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WoW!!!! I'm sorry.......what does ur FH have to say about this? If you add those extra people now ur a better bride then me, lol

Hope everything works out!!

JIFFY Posted: May 16, 2007 11:45 PM

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B@LLS!! Tell your mom to invite 50 friends to the Rehearsal dinner. Then have her tell your FMIL- that's not a problem is it?

My FMIL told me that she invited two people to the wedding at the Rehearsal Dinner. I told her she was going to look like an @ss when she had to uninvite them bc it was completely inappropriate.

You better have FH talk to his mother and nip this right now bc it's only going to get worse. You too. Don't be all- oh no, what do i do now? Remember girl, this is the first of many occasions. births, baptisms, birthdays, communions.....and the list goes on and on. Put her in her place now or she will never have a place and she will pull this cr@p for the rest of your life.

I say just ask her nicely- FMIL, if you show me your testies i'll add the 50 people- flop em' out!

MrsRallis07 Posted: May 16, 2007 11:48 PM

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You are so right!!! You need to put her in her place now or it will only get worst.

luvabul Posted: May 17, 2007 12:33 AM

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thank you...

ill TRY

Cpt2007 Posted: May 17, 2007 07:26 AM

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That is unbelievable!!!!! You totally need to tell her back down and how inappropriate that is. And the other girls are right, you need to stop this behavior now or else it will creep into every other event from here on out. I've already had some similar confrontations with FMIL, and I've had to stamp out the embers before they burn into a full blown bon fire. You can do it and FH should back you up.

BlushingBride714 Posted: May 17, 2007 07:57 AM

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Do NOT stand for this! This is unacceptable and your FMIL knows it!!! I agree with Jiffy - you need to put your foot down with this one and HARD!

TnOiOnL Posted: May 17, 2007 08:01 AM

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im sorry, thats gotta be rough.
can maybe you & your FH flip the bill for the 50 extras?

thats sooo not right for her to ask your MOM to pay

Dee606 Posted: May 17, 2007 08:03 AM

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That is so obnoxious! I would 'forget' to send out the extra invites.

lilqtpie2181 Posted: May 17, 2007 08:04 AM

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why would his mother assume it was ok to invite an additionsal 50 people 50 days b4 the weddings??? Did she forget the whole family or what? i think that u need to ask her to edit that list. in myopinion she is thinking 'well they are paying so who cares'
Iwould really put my foot down and tell her that she is past her limit and that it

Kara and Todd Posted: May 17, 2007 08:29 AM

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Posted by JIFFY

B@LLS!! Tell your mom to invite 50 friends to the Rehearsal dinner. Then have her tell your FMIL- that's not a problem is it?

My FMIL told me that she invited two people to the wedding at the Rehearsal Dinner. I told her she was going to look like an @ss when she had to uninvite them bc it was completely inappropriate.

You better have FH talk to his mother and nip this right now bc it's only going to get worse. You too. Don't be all- oh no, what do i do now? Remember girl, this is the first of many occasions. births, baptisms, birthdays, communions.....and the list goes on and on. Put her in her place now or she will never have a place and she will pull this cr@p for the rest of your life.

I say just ask her nicely- FMIL, if you show me your testies i'll add the 50 people- flop em' out!

I have to toally agree.

Your FH needs to be the one to lay down the law with her, though, and pronto. She also owes your mother a huge apology.

ErinC0119 Posted: May 17, 2007 08:30 AM

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That is so outta control!!!!
My FIL's are only paying for the rehearsal dinner and that was at a set price.....it made me so upset. I had to book the RD too. she wouldnt even do it.....they just handed me a check!
I hope it works out for you!

SusiBtoM Posted: May 17, 2007 08:55 AM

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What a horrible thing to do to you such a short time before the wedding !
FMIL should pay for the extra guests if she wants to add 50.
You did it correctly by allocating 150 guests to your side and 150 guests to his side.
Any additional should be the responsibility of the side that is inviting them.

RGV07 Posted: May 17, 2007 09:01 AM

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why is she so difficult, does she have a vendatta against you. i so sorry you are going through this. The nerve of the woman, why is she not paying for this wedding. WHy did she say the girls side has to take care of the wedding? what nerve!!!!!

Strings22 Posted: May 17, 2007 09:04 AM

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WOW!!! What does your FH say about this?? Are these extra 50 people important?? Because if they really don;t need to be there than say no but with the support of your FH. Take it easy, try not to stress. Once its down to DDs then the stress hits. It will work out.