FH really messing up our invites . . .

SO - FH doesn't have a middle name and this is messing with the wording of our invites. I want to write that my parents are hosting and also acknowledge his parents - but it looks weird:

Mr. and Mrs. Charles White request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Carla Maria
to
Michael Computer
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Computer

It's weird because he doesn't have a middle name - should it just say

to Michael
Sone of Mr. and Mrs. . . .

since they share the same last name? Or should I just add my last name and keep his last name for the sake of consistency. . .

help!

Carla, are Mike's parents contributing at all? Here's what mine say:

Mr. Donald S and Ms. Linda S
together with
Mr. & Mrs. Michael S
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children

Laura
and
Michael

Saturday, the fifth of June
two thousand and ten
at three o'clock in the afternoon



Also, FH has a middle name, but I don't. I originally had his middle name on it, but everyone told me to take it out because they thought it looked weird.

ETA: My parents are hosting the actual wedding, but FIL's are contributing A LOT, by paying for the RD, HM, and a hospitality suite for guests in between the ceremony and CH.

Personally, I didn't like the way it looked when I had FH middle and last name, and since his parents were under him as 'son of', we took out his last name........

so since my parents are hosting, it is......

Mr & Mrs Anthony A
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

HAROULA

to

GIANNI BATTISTA

son of Mr & Mrs G L
Sunday the askdjalskjdlajkdl


I thought it looked silly with him having 2 names (first and middle) and I only have one......i kind of got over it though.....

I have the same prob! Fh doesn't have a middle name. I really want my middle name there ( I was named after both my parents) But proper etiquette says that since I am taking FH's name my last name shouldn't be there. So mine looks like:

Blah blah blahc
Mr and Mrs Sandro V______
Blah Blah Blah
Sandra Dawn
to
Joseph Ci_____
son of Mr and Mrs Nick Ci____
Blah Blah Blah


Which to me looks weird, but all the wedding pro's says is right...

Thanks!

Laura, Mike's parents are helping us out with wedding-related things, but my parents are paying for the wedding - I think they definitely want that recognition.

Sandra, so you think what I have is proper etiquette? I should leave his first and last name, son of his parents, first and last names.

I can't find the etiquette on this anywhere! I definitely want my middle name too!!

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Posted by GiannisWifey

Personally, I didn't like the way it looked when I had FH middle and last name, and since his parents were under him as 'son of', we took out his last name........

so since my parents are hosting, it is......

Mr & Mrs Anthony A
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

HAROULA

to

GIANNI BATTISTA

son of Mr & Mrs G L
Sunday the askdjalskjdlajkdl


I thought it looked silly with him having 2 names (first and middle) and I only have one......i kind of got over it though.....

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I think this looks good - I wish FH had a middle name!!

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Posted by CappyGirl

Thanks!

Laura, Mike's parents are helping us out with wedding-related things, but my parents are paying for the wedding - I think they definitely want that recognition.

Sandra, so you think what I have is proper etiquette? I should leave his first and last name, son of his parents, first and last names.

I can't find the etiquette on this anywhere! I definitely want my middle name too!!

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I am going to get the email my DOC sent me... gimme a sec...

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Posted by Sandradv121

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Posted by CappyGirl

Thanks!

Laura, Mike's parents are helping us out with wedding-related things, but my parents are paying for the wedding - I think they definitely want that recognition.

Sandra, so you think what I have is proper etiquette? I should leave his first and last name, son of his parents, first and last names.

I can't find the etiquette on this anywhere! I definitely want my middle name too!!

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I am going to get the email my DOC sent me... gimme a sec...

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Ok So here is her quote:
'It’s not necessary that your last name be on it because by proper etiquette the bride takes on the groom’s last name (now this may not be your case) and that’s why the bride’s last name is typically not on the invite… However nowadays a lot of brides choose not to take on the groom’s last name and that’s when Sandra Dawn V____i would come into play… You and Joe know what your plans are for the name change… So, do what you think looks best and right…. Either way its fine. '

Thanks, Sandra.

I just don't know if I should just leave his first name and then Son of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Computer . . .

FH is clearly concerned about this - I can hear him snoring from here.

I like the Carla Maria and Michael Computer. It's even.... 2 names.... yea one's a first and a middle... and the other is a first and last.. but there's still 2 names so visually it's appealing because it's symmetrical. I like when things are even. haha!

That's my vote!!

Edit to add that mine say
Kerri Middle name
John Middle name

John's last name isn't with his name. I wanted it to be 2 names for each of us. I think Carla Maria and Michael computer lastname wouldn't be as visually appealing.

Thanks, Kerri! I think I am going to keep his last name - I just read up on this - this website was helpful:

http://thepaperystores.com/wording.cfm

I am the one with no middle name!
So our invites are going to say:
Marjorie
to
Frank Joseph

We took out his last name for that reason, so it wouldn't be too long. Also, since my name is on the long side it doesn't look too bad.

I would just go with his first name. Your first and middle names aren't that long, and once everything is centered and in a pretty font I don't think it will look too bad.

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I am the one with no middle name!
So our invites are going to say:
Marjorie
to
Frank Joseph

We took out his last name for that reason, so it wouldn't be too long. Also, since my name is on the long side it doesn't look too bad.

I would just go with his first name. Your first and middle names aren't that long, and once everything is centered and in a pretty font I don't think it will look too bad.

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I have no middle name either...I am doing what Marjorie is doing

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Posted by soontobecruz

mine say FH's last name and his parents names also. I think it looks fine.

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In that link I posted above, somewhere in there, it says that 'a man should not be separated from his last name', so I think I'm keeping his, along with my first and middle. This kind of made me realize that the whole process is kind of sexist, oh well.

i think its fine as it is. are you taking his last name? usually the guy's last name stays prominent since the girl usually takes it in some way.

my FH doesnt have a middle name either, and we will probably do it the way you have it.

(on a side note: my dad doesnt have a middle name, but he goes by a common nickname 'Mike'...so the invites actually put Mike as his middle name. lol)