FH Take Charge.....

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FH booked the Honeymoon. He also has do the tuxes, but he keeps forgetting that

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We are basically planning everything together. However with the recent craziness over the church and the wedding date being moved. He has offered to take care of all of that right now so I don't have to get upset. Love Him

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He's in charge of showing up on 'the day' !

He might take care of the DJ since he's a music nut, but we'll see. He might have a heart-attack when he sees how much it all really costs...

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FH actually made choice of hall after we looked at several, he booked photographer (went with his dad after I met with several--so cute), and has met with vendors with me when he is able. He was big on choosing Italy for honeymoon and is actually having fun researching it. Since we're paying for the wedding and he makes more than I do, he's also largely responsible for paying for things. He also does negotiating with vendors, as he is very good at it and I am most definitely not.

It's actually been fun with only 2 minor pissing matches about $ (so far)

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picking the hall (well, lots of input), the music (band or DJ and song selections since I only have like 10 I want), invitation (input), guestlist (who to cut) since he's great at that & honeymoon selection (he wants turle island now that I mentioned it but not sure he will once he sees the price tag)

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Um, nothing!! We work opposite schedules so we really don't get to go to the appts together. Before I make an appt. I'll say to him, 'this is where I'm going and who I'm seeing, would you like to be involed in the final decision or should I just handle it?' It works out that way b/c I can get more accomplished since we only get to see eachother a couple nights a week (and we live together!) I really don't mind him not going, I just want to make sure I give him the option.

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My FH took care of the hotel blocks and our suite, scheduling the tasting and talking with the Banquet Manager numerous times, he's booking the limos, he's taking care of the tuxes, and he is (the most important of them all)--the MONEY MAN.....he's the person to make sure I stay on budget.

He's actually playing a very large role in everything---we discuss every last issue (except my dress and hair) and we are planning everything together---up to including votive placecards, invitations, and all the little things.....he really is a great guy!!..

ETA: Almost forgot---he found the band ALL ON HIS OWN!!! Great work!!

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I love my DH but he did next to nothing! lol! I wnt to 18 halls, he came to the 2 I narrowed it down to. He did come to see 2 bands. He didn't meet the photographers until the day of the wedding. He had no clue, or desire to, about the flowers. And I planned the HM.

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FH is all about pleasing me, therfore, he leter me handle it all and have final say in who we book. i make all appointments but he is really good about coming to them with me. But after hearing everyone, I think I am going to volunteer him for booking the HM.

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I havent really put him in charge of anything. I am professional wedding planner so the planning process comes naturally to me. I kinda want to make all the decisions and just let him bring in the money.

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So far, I've given him the narrowed down choices for approval. I have to make sure that those choices are final, 'cause if I come back with another choice after he's already 'approved' something, he gets mad!


The only thing that I will have him do w/out my help is stuff and mail the invitations. But that's only because I'll have to study for my license then and will be going nuts. I am giving him help (my girls), and putting my MOH there to watch that everything goes smoothly!

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He said that he only wanted input on the hall...everything else was up to me...as soon as I mention something to him or show him my ideas about something ...he suddenly has an opinion and a better idea...

I don't think they want to admit it out loud how much they would really like to have do to with the wedding...he's more excited about planning it than I am...

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Posted by Thumballina

He said that he only wanted input on the hall...everything else was up to me...as soon as I mention something to him or show him my ideas about something ...he suddenly has an opinion and a better idea...

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well, when you said that, you should of ran and did whatever u wanted

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My FH and I have planned everything together - the only thing he doesn't do is spend hours on liweddings looking at these boards like I do

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absolutely NOTHING!!!

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Well, reading the post and in my original response, I thought it meant putting your FH in charge of one particular thing (i.e. Honeymoon, limos, DJ) which I can't do because my fi doesn't have the patience or time to do anything alone. However, he has been great at giving his input. No decision was made by myself. Every single of the 13 or so CH that I saw was with him, every vendor interview, every appointment, he was there and helped me decide. So I am very lucky to have him help me but still reiterate that there is no way I would let him do any one thing all alone...although, he is doing the guy's tuxes...so I just contradicted myself!

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FH is great so far we have done everything together. The only thing he won't be a part of is flowers, but that is understandable. I don't know how I would do it without him.

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My FH wants to be hands on so we've been doing everything together. But, I did put him in charge of video/photography and booking the honeymoon. He's been great, a little slow, but great

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