Ever since we got in engaged, I feel like my FH and I argue even more esp about the wedding. It seems like we’re always annoyed at each other. I’m annoyed at him because he doesn’t really seem interested in anything. I dragged to him check out the venues (that was a fight) and it was a good thing because he ended up loving our RH. But even going there and coming home, he was just nagging. I tried to get his opinions on different things like invitations, flowers, STD, djs etc. but he seems like he doesn’t care much… I asked him to draw out our monogram for the invitations (he’s a artist) but he seems stuck on the fact that our monogram will be his initials (his initials are ESR and our monogram will be ERS…)but ..
In his defense, he thinks that 1) everything cost too much (which is does) and 2) his opinions don’t count because I usually don’t listen to him (partially true). I guess when I go to him to ask for opinions or suggestions, I already have an idea of what I want in my head and I want him to agree with me(!) and when he doesn’t I go..”Oh yeah I guess” and talk about what I want ha
We always make up at the end but still…why cant FH be as excited about ordering flowers, booking djs and looking at invitations as we are!!! ha
evita2781
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awww sorry to hear that. My FH isn't a fan of planning and we argued in the beginning mostly about the RH and guest list. but now that's over with, we don't argue anymore. I understand how he doesnt want to get involved so I leave him out of it til I'm about to make a decision.
I mean - they're guys - i guess some really just care about getting married and not the whole part about planning it. It used to bother me, but not anymore - i dont want his opinion anyway
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thats true!
Yeah our biggest arguments started with the guest list and the venue. He wanted 60 people and I wanted 200! But now we came to a round number and we're fine with that.
You're right though. He has told me (after he apologized) that all he cares about is getting married and not the whole 'wedding blah blah' which i get (sigh. )
He cant say I didnt TRY to get his opinion at the end! ha
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I understand what you are going through. My fh does not have much interest in the planning either. I think the only reason he listens to me when I talk about the wedding is because he wants to make me happy. Thankfully we don't argue about the wedding, mostly because he can care less about what I do. lol. Which can be a good thing. The only thing that my fh seems to be excited about is his wedding ring. Good luck and I am sure everything will work out
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I think I can definitely empathize. I ask my FH for a lot of input and he just sorta shrugs things off, which really annoys me (especially when it comes to the STDs I worked hard on).
I'm doing all of the planning because, to be honest, if I didn't do it I have no idea when it would get done (or if it would). sometimes he complains that i'm making all of the decisions, which just drives me through the roof because I constantly ask for his input but he's too busy watching WWE or playing his stupid PS3.
AND I'm getting married in a church to please his mother.
lol, sorry. I got heated!! I can definitely relate though and you're not alone.
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Posted by wiggleit28
I think I can definitely empathize. I ask my FH for a lot of input and he just sorta shrugs things off, which really annoys me (especially when it comes to the STDs I worked hard on).
I'm doing all of the planning because, to be honest, if I didn't do it I have no idea when it would get done (or if it would). sometimes he complains that i'm making all of the decisions, which just drives me through the roof because I constantly ask for his input but he's too busy watching WWE or playing his stupid PS3.
AND I'm getting married in a church to please his mother.
lol, sorry. I got heated!! I can definitely relate though and you're not alone.
MY FH also watches WWE and plays with his Xbox when I start wedding talking!
I think the problem is, we (brides) want to include them (FHs) because we are so excited about everything about the planning process! And in all honesty, the FHs dont care about the planning. I mean they care about certain things (how much is this going to cost? where is it going to be..) but mostly its just too much for them.
On the other hand, we want them to be there and listen and agree but really, sometimes their opinions are not needed or make no sense to us!(My Fh wants one of our songs to be a Metallica song because its his favorite band..........I said no!)
wiggleit28
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I think the problem is, we (brides) want to include them (FHs) because we are so excited about everything about the planning process! And in all honesty, the FHs dont care about the planning. I mean they care about certain things (how much is this going to cost? where is it going to be..) but mostly its just too much for them.
I think you're right....for the most part, they just don't get as much enjoyment out of all of this as we do! And I get that.--I have no interest in hearing about his Fantasy Baseball drafts. He still gets on my last nerve though lol!
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men just don't get as much excitement out of wedding planning as we do. for my FH and i... he's been proactive, helping me with everything that i do need help with and always willing to go and check stuff out with me... but he did tell me from the beginning that this is my show. the wedding is mainly for the girl and the FH is just there for show, so as long as you get what you want, i wouldn't stress the little things.
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Posted by madamsireeda213
Posted by wiggleit28
I think I can definitely empathize. I ask my FH for a lot of input and he just sorta shrugs things off, which really annoys me (especially when it comes to the STDs I worked hard on).
I'm doing all of the planning because, to be honest, if I didn't do it I have no idea when it would get done (or if it would). sometimes he complains that i'm making all of the decisions, which just drives me through the roof because I constantly ask for his input but he's too busy watching WWE or playing his stupid PS3.
AND I'm getting married in a church to please his mother.
lol, sorry. I got heated!! I can definitely relate though and you're not alone.
MY FH also watches WWE and plays with his Xbox when I start wedding talking!
I think the problem is, we (brides) want to include them (FHs) because we are so excited about everything about the planning process! And in all honesty, the FHs dont care about the planning. I mean they care about certain things (how much is this going to cost? where is it going to be..) but mostly its just too much for them.
On the other hand, we want them to be there and listen and agree but really, sometimes their opinions are not needed or make no sense to us!(My Fh wants one of our songs to be a Metallica song because its his favorite band..........I said no!)
What is it with WWE and the playstations? I swear one day both his tv and the video game will just vanish. My fh can play video games for hours and completely tune me out.
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What is it with WWE and the playstations? I swear one day both his tv and the video game will just vanish. My fh can play video games for hours and completely tune me out.
I'll sell his Xbox 360 for some shoes and a tiara!
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What is it with WWE and the playstations? I swear one day both his tv and the video game will just vanish. My fh can play video games for hours and completely tune me out.
I'll sell his Xbox 360 for some shoes and a tiara! lol hellz yeah
