FH vent/bachelor party

ok ladies....this has been eating me up inside for the past week so i need to vent.

Last sunday i was away for work. I spoke to FH sunday night around 5pm and told him to call me later...he was at a bar with friends watching football. i didnt hear from him and was getting ready for bed, so i called and text and got no response. I couldnt sleep through the night so i would call the house and cell phone prob once every hour or so (stalkerish i know lol). i called all the way until 6am and got nothing finally at 7am he called me saying he was home in bed, passed out drunk and never heard the phones ringing.
This turned into a HUGE fight - about responsibilities, drinking too much etc. Everything seems ok but i wont know until he goes out without me and see how he acts (coming home when he says he will, how drunk he gets etc). and honestly, i trust him 1000% but have to say the thought of him being in bed and not waking up to our house phone does not seem legit to me.

anyway, this is all fresh in my head as he and his guys are trying to plan his bachelor party for a weekend away in the summer (3 nights 4 days) and i am sick to my stomach at the thought of him going away with these guys...the same guys he was just with the other night.

how do i get over it??

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Posted by pjc92980

ok ladies....this has been eating me up inside for the past week so i need to vent.

Last sunday i was away for work. I spoke to FH sunday night around 5pm and told him to call me later...he was at a bar with friends watching football. i didnt hear from him and was getting ready for bed, so i called and text and got no response. I couldnt sleep through the night so i would call the house and cell phone prob once every hour or so (stalkerish i know lol). i called all the way until 6am and got nothing finally at 7am he called me saying he was home in bed, passed out drunk and never heard the phones ringing.
This turned into a HUGE fight - about responsibilities, drinking too much etc. Everything seems ok but i wont know until he goes out without me and see how he acts (coming home when he says he will, how drunk he gets etc). and honestly, i trust him 1000% but have to say the thought of him being in bed and not waking up to our house phone does not seem legit to me.

anyway, this is all fresh in my head as he and his guys are trying to plan his bachelor party for a weekend away in the summer (3 nights 4 days) and i am sick to my stomach at the thought of him going away with these guys...the same guys he was just with the other night.

how do i get over it??

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You just wrote my life not that long ago. It's hard to get over - bc it's not HIM, it's the FRIENDS you don't trust!!!! Been there, girl. Just have a convo with him (sober!) and tell him that you're not asking for the world, but just a phone call every now and then (like 2x a day??) to let you know he's okay. Make sure you don;t act 'mom like' or he'll just be resentful -
chances are - he DIDN't hear the phone. Men are so dense and dumb (yet we love them!!!)....just tell him to call a couple of times, and life will be good. Then you can rest easy that nothings wrong.

HTH

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Posted by Cataverri

I'm sorry but I personally think that a 3-4 days bachellor party is not necessary. One weekend is more then enough. I'm sorry you are going through this...but you better make it really clear to him about how you feel.

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Ehh - 3-4 is not really excessive. I'm going on a cruise with my MOH's, so that's 7 days. Mine is kinda excessive lol.

ITA - Make it CLEAR. Leave no room for 'i thought you meant.....'

sounds like a typical guy move..but if you trust him then you have nothing to worry about. He wants to spend the rest of his life with YOU and just 3 days with his guys??
just look at the bigger picture
maybe the 3 days hes away you can do something with your girls...GET EXCITED..YOUR GETTING MARRIED

I completely see where you are coming from. I don't really care for a few of my FHs friends and don't trust them to the fullest, but I trust my FH 110%. If you trust him then theres nothing to worry about. Trusting his friends is completely different! Take that time he's away and spend it with your family and friends. Or even go out and have a pamper-me-day. If he is going away for a few days having fun then you need to also have fun! SMILE YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED!!!!!