fh's bachelor party is better than mine

Yay Kristin!!! Soooo cheer up

Mwah

yep I hear you ..i just wish my bp and my moh will listen..they constantly say how money is an issue..but i know it isn't and everytime i say something my mother or someone else will always criticize me and say im not appreciative of anything

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I am hearing that from my MOH as well. I understand that people have budget issues, but don't the bride and groom have the largest bills of all? And if we can make room for it while paying for our own wedding why can't the people around us? And I am not even asking for a weekend or overnight thing. It really stinks and I feel for you.

err that sux..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would be kinda sad...FH isn't having a huge bach party but there will be a lot of his guy friends there. Mine will be a really small get-together with mostly my bridal party. I want him to have a great time.....I'm don't really care too much about the bachelorette party..I'm much more excited about my shower. Feel better!

I want you to know that DH went to Cancun with his friends for his bachelor party and I went to the Awesome 80's Prom with my girlfriends. I had the better time. DH was with a bunch of guys that never agreed on what they wanted to do. DH doesn't drink so that made him not have fun. So just because they are going away doesn't mean it's going to be better than yours.

I'm kind of in the same boat. My FH is going to Cabo San Lucas for 6 days with all his guys and me....dont' know exactly what I'll be doing, but it definitely wont be that big. I've been a litte upset at times...but at the same time I think to myself, as long as I do something thats fun and memorable with my girls...it wont matter whether if its 5 days or 1 day.

Try not to let it upset you..........

I'm in the same situation- fh is going to Puerto Rico for a couple days & we're just doing a weekend overnight- but the groomsmen didnt have to throw FH a shower or pay for expensive dresses, so I guess it evens out. But sorry that you are upset

OMG... i am going through the same thing right now. FH's BM is planning this big thing in Vegas.... like 15 guys are going and then when FH gets back he is having another bachelor for the guys who could not go away!!!!

All i am getting is something here...maybe over the weekend, but i do not even know b/c no one has told me anything yet!!

So dont feel bad... i am in the same boat as you....

LETS GO AWAY TOGETHER!!!!

Kristin,

I will come to your party and we'll have the best time ever!!!

No, but I know how you feel. FH is going to Vegas too and I think we are doing something fairly low key here. Honestly, it doesn't matter where it is or how many people show up... It's all about the people who you really care about being there celebrating your send-off into marriage.

this is a HAPPY time, lovey!

Kristin....although FH isn't even getting a BP I still am in the same situation as you.

Well first off- FH isnt getting a BP because he will only be home the week of our wedding so he wont be able to fit one in.

But I have 2 sisters who will be 18 and 20 and a cousin who is 19 and well we cant do too much for a BP since they dont have id's. I kinda want to go to AC even in August (i dont care that its early) lay on hte beach during the day- go to dinner at night and then get a suite at one of the hotels so we can party it up in the room for awhile and then my sisters and cousin can continue the party in the room while the rest maybe go out for a little but I dont know if that is happening. I heard one BM talk about a spa, dinner and then sleepover or something. But def not sleeping over my house haha too many people live there already.

But I don't know. I guess as long as you are hanging out with friends and having a great time who cares what ya do right?!

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Posted by bluegreen08

i've been thinking about it and while i am making some gross generalizations here, i think there is truth to a lot of it

1) guys dont have the expense of a bridal shower/gifts (and hair, makeup, shoes) so they can afford to spend more on the bach party

2) guys are more excited about the idea of a bach party (vegas, strippers, etc) than some girls may be. i know FH's friends really wanted to go to Vegas and found a way to make it happen, while some girls may not be as into the bach-party idea and would be less willing to save up and take $$ away from other things to go all out

3) sadly, many guys have higher paying jobs (FH's friends are lawyers, i-banking, business while my friends are still in school or are teachers assistants/teachers)

I don't think they are doing it to be mean... but hopefully if you tell your friends how impt it is to you they can figure out a way to throw a party you are excited about

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very true! Never thought about it that way

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Posted by PAULNSAMANTHA

Hey Kristin!!!


I just wanted to let you know that I spoke with your bridal party last week on the details and they are planning a really cool night! I think they are doing a lot more than you think... and everyone's in on it so try not to worry..... its a suprise

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aw thanks samantha..i definately feel alot better than...its just that my sister kept complaining about how annoying the planning was

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Posted by Munchkn16

I don't think it matters what you do; I think the point is to spend some quality time with your girls before the big day. A lower-key party doesn't necessarily mean is not going to be as much fun. You're lucky to have friends that are willing to take you out and celebrate with you.

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very true...i know exactly what your saying

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Posted by MikeandJess

don't be upset kristen, I'll come and I'll bring a mini slot machine and we can pretend we're in vegas.

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lol sounds like a deal jess...

and thanks everyone! you are all making me feel better

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Posted by bluegreen08

i've been thinking about it and while i am making some gross generalizations here, i think there is truth to a lot of it

1) guys dont have the expense of a bridal shower/gifts (and hair, makeup, shoes) so they can afford to spend more on the bach party

2) guys are more excited about the idea of a bach party (vegas, strippers, etc) than some girls may be. i know FH's friends really wanted to go to Vegas and found a way to make it happen, while some girls may not be as into the bach-party idea and would be less willing to save up and take $$ away from other things to go all out

3) sadly, many guys have higher paying jobs (FH's friends are lawyers, i-banking, business while my friends are still in school or are teachers assistants/teachers)

I don't think they are doing it to be mean... but hopefully if you tell your friends how impt it is to you they can figure out a way to throw a party you are excited about

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I have to agree with this....even though it may be generalizations it's so true in our case. Everyone always says just have fun with your best friends! Well FH is my best friend and I moved to PA to be with him. So guess what, none of my friends live locally, only my MOH can even come hang out (besides FSIL who is 19, who couldn't even be bothered to come to my shower which totally shocked me). and I don't have friends. I have FH and FH's friends....who are my friends too, but not like friends that would drop $$ to hang out....

WOW, just reading everybody's comments and I was shocked by how many bachelor party blowouts there are!!
How come marriage seems like the end of the world for men and the beginning for women? Such different creatures we are.
Just think though when have you ever heard a guy breaking off a wedding b/c of a bachelorette party? Yet I have heard of at least a dozen or so being called off b/c of bachelor parties

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Posted by mnd1202

ive come to the conclusion that guys just dont care about spending the extra money and girls are very cheap lol i wish i had all guys lol

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GUYS definitely spend more money but also bc they feel they have to and as girls we feel we dont have to lol. Its funny we were just talking about all this. When Fh went to vegas for his bachelor party they got tables at a club which is $600 for the table plus all the drinks they get but they are used to this and always do this when they go out. Going out with 10 guys or more in a group is VERY VERY VERY hard for them to all get in unless they get a table and do bottle service so its just something they've gotten used to. Us girls if we spend that much we feel like ugh something is wrong were girls we shouldnt have to. My friends and i got into the same place fh went to for free, we were given free drinks and all, that to us is what we have been programmed to think we should get

i didnt even spend most of the spending money i brought with me. Infact i think ppl would be surprised just how little i spent, i spent half of what fh spent in just one night and thats for all my nights combined.

So when it comes to these things yes girls arent as willing to spend as much, some are though

alot of fh's friends do make good money but what matters even more is they have no problem spending that money