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FH's EX Tried to Wreck My Wedding Night!! [UPDATED!]

Original post by twinkletoes807

Background:
So, as some of you girls know, this is my FH's second marriage. My first. FH's ex-biotch has custody of his 3 kids. Ex-biotch thinks she did nothing to contribute to the demise of their marriage- that it was all FH's fault. She was extremely abusive to FH physically and emotionally thruout their 7 year marriage. But she still thinks that she was Mother/Wife of the Year.

Anyway, on about June 10th, FH calls up ex-biotch to inform her that I will be attending their 6 year old son's Kindergarten Graduation on June 13th. I am very fortunate that FH's children and I get along sooo well and I love them to death, so we thought that he would be excited and happy to see me there with his Daddy.

FH thought it would be nice to give ex-biotch the 'heads up' since she and I have never officially met, and he didn't want there to be a scene. Well, she went on and on about how I am a twat and that she didn't think it was the right time for us to meet, blah, blah, blah. She called him about 3 times yelling that I wasn't welcome and that he should rethink his decision to have me attend.

FH told me the story and I decided it was in his son's, his and my best interest if I did not go. I figured that this crazy biotch would not think twice to try and get me in trouble at work, which is very easy to do! [I am a police officer and if anyone makes an allegation, a big investigation is done, regardless if there is truth to the allegation!] Also, FH's son is very sensitive and I didn't want him to be upset on his day if his nasty mother couldn't keep it together! This all happened on June 10.

Today, my Mom calls a certain hotel to book her rooms to stay for my wedding [she lives in GA] and inquires about mine and FH's room. The woman told her that there were no such reservation!! My Mom called and told me this, so I called the hotel back to find out what was going on. I explained that I booked the room in Sept. 2006 since I wanted a good rate and it was my HM night. She looks up the reservation via the 2 confirmation numbers that I have and guess what? Someone changed it! It could only be, that nasty C-UNT changed the name on the reservation!! The woman that I spoke to said that a call was made on JUNE 11th and that the name was changed!! The last 4 digits of the credit card # match, the 2 confirmation #s match, the rate- it all matches!! The original reservation was in FH's name only.

That F#$%^ C-UNT tried to ruin my Wedding Night!! Luckily, I am totally anal and would have brought the confirmation printout with me to verify it, but wonder if I forgot it? Or wonder if they wouldn't let us stay there even with it?!! I would have been in my dress on my wedding night standing at the Reservation Counter for God knows how long!!

The moral of this story is: if your FH has an EX-Biotch too [whether it be GF, Wife or whatever] MAKE SURE YOU CONFIRM YOUR VENDORS!! You never know what info she knows about your day!! Whew! I feel so much better now that I've vented!! Sorry so long girls!!

ETA- We are getting married this Sept. 14th. Let her try and F#$% up anything on that day and she is getting locked up!

UPDATE: I got home from work at about 12:30am and FH was sleeping. At about 2am, he woke up and I told him what I found out while I was at work. Needless to say, he was PISSED!! We decided that he was not going to say anything to the ex-biotch that we know what she tried to do, since we wouldn't want her to do something else, since her plan failed!!

FH woke up this morning and called all of the vendors! He even called my dress shop and my BMs dress shop!! Some of the vendors were totally shoked that someone would try and do this, others told FH that it has happened before. Everyone made notations on our accounts so there would be no canceling of their services!

I am also going to give a picture of the troll to my DOC [Christine Viola- who is fabulous btw!] so that if the ex-biotch chooses to actually come to the church and/or RH, she will be escorted off of the premises. I really do not think she would embarrass herself and show up, but hey, ya never know!!

Thank you all for your support and for all of the FMs. You girls are really such wonderful people. You all make wedding planning a happy experience!!
PegaLega Posted:

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wow-she sounds like a whack job! Glad that you had all the info you needed

fallinlove91407 Posted:

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OMG!! Gabi I can't believe that -- she sounds nuts. It's time for her to move on. You did the right thing by stepping back and not going to the graduation. Can you imagine what she might have done if you went to it? Oh boy!! At least it's resolved -- just stay on your toes with your other vendors just in case. And with the graduations ...you'll have plenty of other special moments with the boys, I'm he knew you wantexd to go.

luvabul Posted:

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diva7531 Posted:

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You absolutely did the roght thing for you, FH and his son. So sorry that you have to endure that woman for the rest of your life! Hopefully she will lose interest in the future. Some people are just so unhappy, that they feel they need company! Keep your guard up, FH is PO too and he always worries about how easy it is for other people to get an officer into trouble! Hope it all works out! Oh and I'm free on your date too, to just sit and wait!
PattyK Posted:

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OMG....what a psycho!!! I think that you handled it the right way and to be honest I don't think that I would have handled everything as great as you are.

kns11 Posted:

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Gabi I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with such a looney tune! Kudos to you for handling the graduation situation with such class. All I can say is karma is a biitch
twinkletoes807 Posted:

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Kathy, thank you so much! She is a nut job!!

Mooshyboo Posted:

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Omg Gabi Holy Cr*pppppppppp.... That is terrible that she can't get past this whole thing it would have been so nice for the child to have you all there... that is REALLY messed up about the hm night ~ I just dont understand how someone can just change a reservation like that ~ scary! thank goodnesss your mom called when she did... woooowwww... i am glad it all worked out...
Licee15 Posted:

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Who in there right mind thinks of these things!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sorry Gabi
ErinC0119 Posted:

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OMG!!! she is a crazy-BIOTCH!!!! I wouldnt know what to do.
Thank goodness you took care of it!!!
dancinmyazoff Posted:

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Uh that's horrible, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. There are some ex's that are so jealous and bitter that they'll do anything for everyone to be as miserable as them...misery loves company If you feel as if she might attempt anything else call up all of your vendors (just incase she found out any of them) and give them a password to add to your account something not obvious. That way nothing can be changed unless they give the password. I hope everything works out for you!
SuzArtie69 Posted:

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Wow, this is what I'm afraid of. My FH x-wife isn't the nicest person either. She has caused so much friction between them and their 15 year old son, that my FH hasn't seen him in 3years. It breaks my heart that she's done this.

I only want the best for him. Her issue is all about the money. I guess some people just don't get that the kids are getting hurt in the process.

I'll definitely check my vendors. She knows we're getting married, just nothing about the wedding. I really wish she would come to her senses and stop it for her son's sake.

Sorry this turned into a vent for me too.

Good Luck!!!
WilliesBride Posted:

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Wow.........some people have alot of nerve.......
enjft Posted:

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WOW. What a wrench!

B22 Posted:

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WOW...

I'm speechless.

...

in other news... HEY DATE TWIN !! <3
bonitachyc Posted:

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holy fuuuuuuuuck omg thank good ness everything worked out!!
JennysMOH Posted:

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Is there any way you can hire a security guard or maybe one of the police officers to stand guard or be with you wherever you go. If she's a nutcase I wouldnt put anything past her. I wouldnt want her ruining your special day.

twinkle164 Posted:

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Whoa! Don't give her ANY information about the wedding. And if she has any already, I would tell her it has been changed and feed her fake information. Good luck with her.
heatherandrichie Posted:

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Posted by MrsB2BE

All I can say is you handled it better than I would - But I understand for the children's sake you don't want any unnecessary drama - But let some chick try to mess up my wedding........

ditto!
mandysmom503 Posted:

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Wow you handled this amazingly. As a mom in a similar situation (I have an ex, this is my 2nd marriage). You put the child first and that's what matters the most. GREAT JOB!

God you have more patience then I do with his ex...I would of told her where to go put it in a calm...demeaning sort of way... LOL

She won't ruin your day...don't let her. And what comes around goes around. She's just jealous cause you're doing for him what she couldn't do. :)

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