For our first song I want to dance completely alone with him throughout the whole song. He wants to dance alone for the first couple of minutes then have the BP join in. I know that is how the tradition goes. But for our first time as husband and wife i want all eyes on us. I am not one to be center of attraction. I'm the type that hangs in the corner. But for this one night, i want to be the center. How should I convince him? Am I the only one who wants our first dance to be only us?
ChrissynRicky
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I agree with you! What about telling him that the BP has significant others that are not in the BP, and there's going to be a seperate dance for couples?
amstellitelady
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Posted by Goldi1021
You should have your moment alone together. Personally, I dont like when the BP dances together at all - especially when the groom's side doesn't know the brides side. It looks awkward to me and I never enjoyed it when I had to do it as a bridesmaid.
You are so right. 3 of the 5 girls know only 1 of the guys and none of them are being paired up with him. so 4 of the 5 of my FI groomsmen don't know any of my girls. It will look odd and i would think very uncomfortable dancing a slow romantic song with someone you don't know from a hole in a wall. The only couple that will know eachother is my brother and sis-in-law. they will be paired together. I don't know, we still have time, but its just one of those little things that is very important to me.
marymoon
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The tradition goes either wya, i think hvaing the BP join is a new thing. What we'll do is have two songs..the first song will be just us...we need all those great photo ops! And then a second song will com when we'll invite everyone to join for good luck! Maybe you can amke a compromise like that
Find out how long your song is and if there's a shorter ersion, tell FH it's not that long and that he won't notice all the people, it'll be just you and him, and explain that it's one of the moments that is most special to you and will really make you feel like a bride.
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Posted by Goldi1021
You should have your moment alone together. Personally, I dont like when the BP dances together at all - especially when the groom's side doesn't know the brides side. It looks awkward to me and I never enjoyed it when I had to do it as a bridesmaid.
I agree. I HATED it when I was my sister's MOH and I had to dance for what seemed like forrever with my BIL's brother whom I didn't know, who is a foot taller than me, and the same age as my dad. It was so awkward.
