Fighting?? kinda long !

ok so my parents are in a huge fight right now.. and i cant help but think.. in 30 years am i going to be doing the same kinda of stuff.. i totally understand both sides and i feel like they both come to me so that i will choose a side and i jsut cant...

my mom works 2 jobs and my dad works one. but his job brings in most of the money. we sold out old house cuz we just couldnt afford it if my dad lost his job since he has no job secuity. with moving to the new house its much more affordable but we still NEED my dads income to get by. so anywya his job was threatning to close and then everyone would be out of work this was in dec. its not march and they are working half staffed cuz just about everyone found a new job. my dad on the other hand cant get a job cuz everyone says hes over qualified so he has nothing lined up.. they've been verbally abusing him since dec. and then he had his heart attack in jan. and isince then he feels like the world owes him. so he just keeps telling my mom that hes going to take some time off.. and my mom says I CANT PHYSICALLY WORK 2 jobs anymore. so yesterday my dad WALKED OUT of work and said I QUIT... so not only is he now out of work but whn you quit you forfit your unemployement (which we would NEED if hes out of work) so my mom said WHAT WER YOU THINKING? my dads mad that she doesnt support his decision but its because hes totally unmotivated to go and look for a new job. he just wants to do nothing but thats totally impossible..

sorry this is so long im just wondering if one day FH and i will be having this same fight and what i would do...

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Posted by Lucky0510

i sure hope not... but of course there are going to be arguments. nobody is perfect. i understand your moms point of view but, i would never expect FH to deal with people verbally abusing him especially when I would never deal with it myself. If i was your dad I would have walked out of there when it started happening in Dec. Nobody should have to deal with that. JMO

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i totally agree with you.. but i would also be actively lookig for a new job. and he feels he shouldnt have too

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

i totally agree with you.. but i would also be actively lookig for a new job. and he feels he shouldnt have too

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he def should be looking. if I was in that situation and FH was being a slacker... I would give him a month at the most to find a new job.

ugh my dad lost his job when i was in private high school so first of all bc it is always a scary thing

and seriously, you are probably going to have WORSE fights than that one. . .it is expected!!

a good marriage doesnt mean that you dont have knock down drag out fights once in a while - it just means that after cooling down you can remember why you still loved that person. . . and you still want to be with them even if you think they are being a butthead!