Fighting with Mom over guest list

I am in the middle of an fight with my mother over my cousin's two kids being invited to the wedding. My mother says that my cousin and her husband won't come if the kids aren't invited. These kids(7 and 9) are maniacs and have no idea how to behave outside of their own home so I don't want the running wild at my wedding. My mother says that they have no one to leave the kids with(basically because the kids are so bad that they don't want to leave them) so they have to be invited. Fi didn't put his cousins' kids on the guest list, so even if my cousin's kids were angels, I don't think it would be fair to invite them. Help!!!

Fighting with Mom over guest list

I agree with you Jenn!! let them leave the kids with someone and if the kids are that bad that they cant well then i guess they will not be coming to your wedding. We have enough to worry about on our wedding day than 2 little kids running around wild. Lisa

Fighting with Mom over guest list

I agree with you Jenn. The only kids coming to my wedding are my sisters four kids. That is it. No one else's kids will be invited. They would just be running around all the time.

Fighting with Mom over guest list

I thought it was 'proper etiquette' that if you invite some children, you should invite all children. It may hurt the feelings of those who wanted to bring their children, but were not allowed. Personally, I am only having my neice and nephew at the wedding (they are in the bridal party).

Fighting with Mom over guest list

Kid`s can be great to have at a wedding, but not if they are misbehaved brats. Their problem with not being able to get a baby sitter is not your problem and you shouldn`t have to make it yours. You may have heard the saying around work - 'Your poor planning is not my crisis.' Mary`s right too. You need to invite children across a 'relationship strata' equally. We are only including the children of our immediate cousins. If we invited the children of Fi`s Mom`s cousins (who we really would have liked to include) we had to invite them all, whether we were close to them or not, including the ones on his Father`s side too. That numbered about 40, so they are not on the list. By the way, if your Mom and Dad are picking up the wedding expenses, you may have a hard time arguing this one, but maybe you could insist on an ex-army drill seargent to be there as a 'baby sitter' for the day.

You are definitely right, Jenn Z. *NM*