Finding Joy in Wedding Planning

Okay... I really need some help .. and I think you guys have enough positive happiness to blow me away...

How did you become thrilled, happy about wedding Planning?

Because.. I can't seem to get onboard. and it's my wedding.
*sigh*




A bit of background...
Two of my close friends were planning their weddings back 2 years ago, a year and a half ago - and I became obsessed. I knew then I loved FH, I wanted to be with FH, I wanted to get married and finally live with him and put an end to our long distance relationship.

I was Obsessed with everything wedding.

I was only a bridesmaide and bridesmaid (honorary MOH) but I was obsessed. I spent hours surfing weddings blogs, pinning ideas, looking at Djs for the other girls and secretly wishing it was my wedding. I did so much of the planning for them.

I was so happy for them, but at the time I plotted out like my whole dream wedding.

FH proposed to me last April - to be honest, it wasn't a suprise or romantic like I hoped, but I was so happy.

I still am - I love FH to pieces and want nothing more than to be with him. I want to live with him (family is against the whole livign together before wedding, so we're sorta trying to make them happy) and I know he's for the one for me.

But now that I'm in the reality of wedding planning - confronted by researching vendors, finding what vendors are good an trust worthy for the best rate, comparing prices figuring out all the details like

venue - dj - photographer - limo- flowers - dress - groomswear - bridal party - travel - hotels - honey moon - living arrangements post wedding - etc etc etc

It's overwhelming. I hate it.

I sorta just want someone to put everything together, and I'l show up. I feel so stressed, confused and lost.Probably doesn't help that my mom isn't interested in helping at all and all my bridesmaids are elsewhere. I feel like no one's excited for us - so why should I care.

I'd elope, but there's part of me that wants a big party to bring our friens who are scattered across the U.S. Togther and its important to FH, who has a huge family he's close to.

How to find the motivation to care?

have you been going to expos or shows?

Maybe read David Tutera's books and watch My Fair Wedding?!?! That's how I began the planning process
hahahahah

I'm so sorry your feeling like that!
At first I was SOOOOO wedding wedding wedding...must get everything done, so excited!!!! Then I hit a wall. We have a 3 year engagement, because I know i get like that. So i took a few months off and now i got that fire under my butt again. I dont know why, it just 'came back'.
My advice to you would be to take it one step at a time. I'm personally a list person, and its like OMG I HAVE 90 THINGS TO DO, but after that list is completed you just check one thing off at a time. My list was like this:
Venue - check
DJ - check
Photo - check
Video - check
Flower - working on
Hotel - working on
Limo - working on

Then other smaller stuff like Attire and DIY projects, STD, Invites ETC.
You need to make it fun! I love crafts so i'm getting excited about the DIY stuff.

If you need to vent or someone to bounce ideas off of just FM me.

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Posted by KristyANDMatt224

have you been going to expos or shows?

Maybe read David Tutera's books and watch My Fair Wedding?!?! That's how I began the planning process
hahahahah

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Thats how I did it. I was excited at first but that faded quickly so I figured going to expos will help and it did. As for you no one being excited for you guys thats their own bitterness. It gets better once you start booking people. A sense of relief comes and it turns to excitement. I hope it gets better

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Posted by Christina11913

Maybe try not to think of the wedding as a 'wedding' or somethign to deal with, think of it as a party to celebrate love you have with your FH....is this crazy???

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This is how I think of it!! I HAVE to think like that... being the Bride and center of attention freaks me out a little bit and puts a lot of pressure on me to start thinking 'This has to be perfect, everyone will talk about it if this wedding sucks' etc etc...

Also, maybe don't stress about getting the best deal always.
We picked our DJ because he fit our style and makes me genuinely EXCITED for this party. He was NOT the cheapest!
Finding a good photographer and venue that matches my style really helped me start to SEE it and then I got excited.
Before any of that I was scared, didn't know where to start, totally overwhelmed. Now I just feel like, throw some flowers in there to pull the room together and I'm ready to go!
You can get really caught up in things, but when you get crazy just breathe and remember you don't NEED to go nuts... your venue has it covered and it WILL come together.

I also try to picture how I want to look that day: I have my dress, I had my makeup done, my hair stylist knows how I want my hair... and it makes me soooooo excited how it's going to come together.
It also makes me sooooo excited to see FH and hear him say those vows!!!