First Cousins and Second Cousins

So yesterday FH and I agreed that the only kids at the wedding will be our 2 FGs and 1 RB.
The RB is FH's Godson, 1 of the FG's is the RBs sister and the other FG is the little sister of a BM and she's close with the other FG and RB.
These are all second cousins btw.

All of our first cousins are invited (but not their kids b/c they're too little)

Here's the problem:
My Uncle has 4 kids (mind you first cousins). They are 13, 11, 6 and 5.
Do I invite them? Do I call my Uncle and explain that I can only have the 2 older ones? Do I invite all of them because they're my first cousins? Actually, I like the 2 youngest ones the most our of the 4!
My Dad and I don't know what to do! I don't want backlash from the other cousins about us not inviting their kids!

I think I should just say EFF IT and only invite my Aunt and Uncle.

Thoughts?

I would just invite my aunt and uncle.

As a kid, I had almost 30 cousins and I'm right int he middle in temrs of age with 2 younger brothers. Plenty of my cousins got married with adult only receptions, and even though I was a teen, I was not invited if I was not a BM (which I never was, lol) I was never offended and neither were my parents.

I really think it's fine if the only kids there are BP kids, regardless of age or relationship. You picked those kids to be int he BP for a reason.

Gotta draw a line somewhere.

If you invite any of your cousins who are children you gotta extend the invitation to the other children too.

All of the children at my wedding are actually like.. 3-4th cousins and stuff but I don't look at it like that, they are just my cousins. It really depends on how close you are with them and if you want children at your wedding.

You're right. I'm not close with my aunt and uncles kids at all. They live upstate and never come down to the city because their mother is 'scared' of the city. (Retardo much?) She didn't even come down for my grandfather's (HER FIL!) funeral!!!

You're right. No kids. Just My uncle and aunt. My Dad and I considered that option and we figured they probably wouldn't come anyway which is a shame. I like my Uncle and even though my aunt is a twit, she's nice.

Oh well!

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Posted by FallBride2010

Are these 4 cousins...the only 1st cousins you have that are kids? If so, I would invite them. I am cutting most kids...but I am including my two 1st cousins that are young and dont care if anyone has an issue with it

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Yeah they're the only young first cousins. I would do this if my relationship with them was better. I've met the older one twice and I just met the other 3 this past March.

Personally the ONE thing I wuold say is please do not invite 2 of the 4 kids. That's kinda mean. Think about it if you were a kid and your 2 siblings were invited and you and another one werent. They would feel bad... and usually in families with multiple kids, jealousy is always a factor. It's important to treat them all fairly.

I think you should talk to your uncle about it regardless. Tell him that you are not really having kids at the wedding but you were contemplating inviting his kids because they are your first cousins but you are still undecided. Maybe through the phone call you will come to a decision. He might not even want his kid there. I find that A LOT of parents don't want their kids to go because they want to have fun themselves.

I think if you decide to have them or not you should call the uncle and talk to him. It will all work out.

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Posted by Becca2010

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Posted by FallBride2010

Are these 4 cousins...the only 1st cousins you have that are kids? If so, I would invite them. I am cutting most kids...but I am including my two 1st cousins that are young and dont care if anyone has an issue with it

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Yeah they're the only young first cousins. I would do this if my relationship with them was better. I've met the older one twice and I just met the other 3 this past March.

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Ok, in that case leave them out. I am close with mine which is why I am including them. If I wasnt close, I wouldnt have made the exception

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Posted by JLWSJC

I would just invite my aunt and uncle.

As a kid, I had almost 30 cousins and I'm right int he middle in temrs of age with 2 younger brothers. Plenty of my cousins got married with adult only receptions, and even though I was a teen, I was not invited if I was not a BM (which I never was, lol) I was never offended and neither were my parents.

I really think it's fine if the only kids there are BP kids, regardless of age or relationship. You picked those kids to be int he BP for a reason.

Gotta draw a line somewhere.

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i agree... we drew the line at 13 because we wanted kids there for my nephew and FH's younger brother.... so my cousins and his cousins that are 13 will be there.... i would love to have all the kids there because I loved weddings when i was a kid... but we have so many people as it is... we i just cant justify paying even half price for 15 4- 10 year olds