Sorry but I really got to vent here. I feel like the past serveral weeks of caring for my FI was to waste. I even went over to TnT to get some support and all he gave me is this 'I'm going to die' speech. Well... now that's here home with me, I found out an interesting tidbit about my 'beloved' FI.
To make a long story short, I found out my FI, the man I am planning to marry and standing behind him throughout his health crisis, was cheating on me while in California. I found out in the worst possible way. While unpacking his stuff, I saw a note and read it. It was an email 'this person' wrote, telling him how much she missed his (you know what) and that she hopes he gets better soon. I did confronted him and he admited to what happened. I just told him to pack his things and go back to Long Island to his mother's first thing in the morning because I do not want to see him or touch him right now.
So this morning he left my house here in PA, asking me to forgive him and telling me he appriciates me being there for him. I didn't want to hear it. I felt I was putting so much energy to make sure he is okay so we can start our lives together, only to see that being shattered. I even went down there to convince him to get treatment here in the US because I love him and know he will be okay.
Now I just don't know what to do now. He wasn't being happy with me, why would he cheat on me like that? I really love him but don't want a cheater. After what I have done for him, I felt that was a huge slap to my face.
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I appricate all of this but I want a beer... a Menudo fix... some Blue Bunny ice cream and the Rangers to beat the Devils to make my day. Today's been rough but I survived work (and FI's kept on calling me while at work without leaving a message).
I know it's going to take time to really make up my mind but it's very tough. I did talk to one of my guy friends last night and felt that now is a great time to take some time out and focus on me. I'm too much of a good person to be going through this. He's even nice enough to plan to drive over next weekend to keep me company (since I only been to New York once since I moved out there... to pick up FI).
Good thing this place gives me a laughing fix too. I love you girls!
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I'm so sorry to hear that....after all you've done. Thank goodness it happened now BEFORE you went through with marrying him. Don't worry, there IS a guy out there somewhere that would NEVER do this to you.....hopefully he has a good life without you..that's what I'd tell him!
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Posted by MrsDtoBe
I'm so sorry to hear that....after all you've done. Thank goodness it happened now BEFORE you went through with marrying him. Don't worry, there IS a guy out there somewhere that would NEVER do this to you.....hopefully he has a good life without you..that's what I'd tell him!
I agree. NO ONE deserves to be cheated on.
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Posted by hwolf812
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I'm so sorry to hear that....after all you've done. Thank goodness it happened now BEFORE you went through with marrying him. Don't worry, there IS a guy out there somewhere that would NEVER do this to you.....hopefully he has a good life without you..that's what I'd tell him!
I agree. NO ONE deserves to be cheated on.
I feel so bad...wish I could give her a hug!
DomTriniBRL
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Aww thanks to the hug * s back*
beachbum05
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What!????????? Unbelieveable. I'm really sorry.
tlp123
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So sorry
TommysWife08
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OMG i'm sooo sorry!!
the girls before me said everything best!! just take your time to let yourself heal & get over it (or work it out - whatever you decide!)
one day at a time!!!
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i don't even know what to say...i'm just so sorry that a person as good hearted as you has to go through something like this.
stay strong, and do what you feel is really right in your heart.
no matter what happens, try to believe it will work out for the best, whatever that may be.
good luck and please keep us posted!!
DomTriniBRL
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You know I will keep everyone posted... no matter what happens.
LeeLee111
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WHOA, you have to do whats right for you. If you cant trust himb then its better not to get married and pretend you do.
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Im sorry to hear this. I really dont know what to say in this situation but be strong and make the decision you think is going to make you happy in the end. What he did was unforgivable.
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it is a slap in the face, IMO unforgivable
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OMG , Im sooooooooo sorry to hear this. . What r u going to do now? Why do u call him FI??
it also stands for fiance, i know on the knot the use FI instead of FH
thanks i was wondering too.
Sorry to hear this! its horrible. i hope things work out.
DomTriniBRL
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Posted by SugaBeans
Posted by Espo22
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OMG , Im sooooooooo sorry to hear this. . What r u going to do now? Why do u call him FI??
it also stands for fiance, i know on the knot the use FI instead of FH
thanks i was wondering too.
Sorry to hear this! its horrible. i hope things work out.
It's okay. I'm still learning LIW lingo myself. LOL I'm already passed my crying phase, now I'm in my PO'ed phase.
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I'm so soorry to hear this happened to you. Did you ever consider contacting this girl? Sometimes the girl will be completely honest and tell you everything that happened.....she may not have known he was engaged so she may feel your pain and tell you everything....
DomTriniBRL
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Trust me if it was me, I would do that. However, I know my temper and would actually cuss her out and call her every name under the sun.
Too bad I didn't copy the email address so I can email her.
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Trust me if it was me, I would do that. However, I know my temper and would actually cuss her out and call her every name under the sun.
Too bad I didn't copy the email address so I can email her.
sawwwyyyyyyy
DomTriniBRL
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Trust me if it was me, I would do that. However, I know my temper and would actually cuss her out and call her every name under the sun.
Too bad I didn't copy the email address so I can email her.
sawwwyyyyyyy
*Sings* Don't cry for me, LI Bridies... too bad he's in the house of doggies....
Hey despite how PO I am now, I'm trying to keep some humor in all of this.
