how do you guys handle certain things like Bdays mothers day etc....do you get something for FMIL and call for them or do you let FH do that?
So far what I’ve done is let the FH call and maybe I’ll jump on the phone too to say hello…but usually, we send a card or if we see her, give her a card and gift with both of our names on it.
We always call- but seperately because he is overseas in the Marine Corps but when he is home we go see them. And we get a gift from both of us
He usually takes care of it., but it should come from both of us now.
Posted by kellybean
how do you guys handle certain things like Bdays mothers day etc....do you get something for FMIL and call for them or do you let FH do that?
I'm close to my FMIL so I call her, email her and hangout with her all the time, I seem to be the one who buys her the gift and FH puts his name on it... men. Sometimes I think I'm marrying him for his family LOL
we get gifts and cards together for everything. on Mother's Day i called Fh's mom bc i didnt see her. I saw FH's dad on Fathers day though
Posted by ant n tilde
for FMIL: I buy the gift, wrap it and get the card. Then FH and I will go over for dinner together.
for FFIL: his bday is in the summer SO I get the gift and bring it by myself bc FH can't get off for work in the summer, and then I have dinner with his family without him
all other family events, i am in charge of all the cards, gifts etc. I go to many of HIS family functions without him bc of his job. . . i don't know how i got into all of this LOL his mom kind of pushed me into it![]()
His family isnt big on gifts cards etc...So I feel badly that we get gifts for my family for everything and not his...but I know if the gifts/cards start coming even if all of our names are on it they are gonna know I did 100% of the work to make sure they got something and I dont know if they would look poorly at FH because he never did it and now I am ?
We usually get them one gift from the both of us. He'll sign the card for his parents and me for mine. Which reminds me, my dad's bday is in a few weeks :)
Posted by Ilovebriani
Posted by ant n tilde
for FMIL: I buy the gift, wrap it and get the card. Then FH and I will go over for dinner together.
for FFIL: his bday is in the summer SO I get the gift and bring it by myself bc FH can't get off for work in the summer, and then I have dinner with his family without him
all other family events, i am in charge of all the cards, gifts etc. I go to many of HIS family functions without him bc of his job. . . i don't know how i got into all of this LOL his mom kind of pushed me into it![]()
it's nice that you feel comfortable doing that. The only thing i ever went to without FH was to a baby shower.
im always the one getting the gifts but its from the both of us.
Posted by Espo22
Posted by Ilovebriani
Posted by ant n tilde
for FMIL: I buy the gift, wrap it and get the card. Then FH and I will go over for dinner together.
for FFIL: his bday is in the summer SO I get the gift and bring it by myself bc FH can't get off for work in the summer, and then I have dinner with his family without him
all other family events, i am in charge of all the cards, gifts etc. I go to many of HIS family functions without him bc of his job. . . i don't know how i got into all of this LOL his mom kind of pushed me into it![]()
it's nice that you feel comfortable doing that. The only thing i ever went to without FH was to a baby shower.
i eat dinner with his family even without FH, or when they bbq he'll go upstairs to sleep and ill stay lol. Even when i got my dress i invited FMIL
he makes that phone calls and then if we get a present it is from both of us!
WE GET HER GIFTS TOGETHER, WE GET HER CARDS THAT SAY FROM BOTH OF US, FMIL IS REAL GOOD TO ME, WE GO OUT TO EAT , SHOPPING WE EVEN CALL EACH OTHER ON THE PHONE...
We get gifts from both of us...same card and etc. She writes out her card to me as Love, Mom and we are really close so I have no problem with that and of course I am the one shopping for the gifts...lol
