FMIL got a white stretch limo for her family!

FMIL had mentioned that because of all of there our of town guests don't have cars (out of country guests, actually) she wanted to get a limo for the wedding day. Well, she didn't only get a limo, but she got a WHITE stretch limo AND she had the nerve to tell me that she thought I should trade limos with her because she thinks we should have a white limo and not the silver that I picked. WHY is she doing this with less than two weeks to go? She has not liked most of the things I have chosen. I want to scream. She had her own wedding (two, actually because in Poland they were required to have a civil ceremony and then a church wedding separately so she had two parties, a white suit and a white dress etc)

GRRRR Why can't she tell me how much she loves what we chose instead of frowning at everything like I didn't want strapless, I didn't want my hair up, I didn't want piping on my veil, I don't want white limos.... But these are my choices. She has an idea in her head of what a bride should look like and she can't see that I have my own vision.


My countdown clock tells me I have 11 1/2 days left. Give me strength!!!

I think you should tell her what you just told us. Tell her she had her wedding, now let you have yours!!! You want a silver limo, your gonna have your silver limo, but she and her guests will look like fools getting out of a bridal limo!!!!

I'm having similar issues with only a few weeks left to go.. My mom is trying to run the show and change things around last minute which is driving me NUTS!!!

I've come to this conclusion...at this point.. You know what.... We're going to be so pre-occupied with other things that day we wont even realize all the things were stressing about now..

Just try and relax and remember it's you and your FH that really matter that day, not everyone else.. your wedding is going to be beautiful no matter what!!!!

I know exactly how you feel, my FMIL is the same way. I have survived this far with her, hopefully i can last a little longer too. Just ignore her thats why i do and i do whatever i want. My FMIL just changed the wording on our wedding bands becasue she didn't like what i wanted to have engraved on them.
(We ordered them from a friend of hers, and they decided they would change it.)

my FMIL did the same thing. i dont understand why she wants a limo, if my parents wont have one. but i decided not to care.

i am sorry about the color tho - i think silver will look great!!

SO MANY To you. What does ure FH think? I remember how you wanted silver limos. I would really tell her you would appreciate it if she can change the color! Id rather her in a black limo then a white If I chose silver.

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Posted by june262004

SO MANY To you. What does ure FH think? I remember how you wanted silver limos. I would really tell her you would appreciate it if she can change the color! Id rather her in a black limo then a white If I chose silver.

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I think she got whatever limo she could at such short notice. FH is trying hard not to care. She seems to think that a white limo is so bridal and she purposely got it in case I want to switch.

She and her family don't want black limos because they say it reminds them of a funeral. This is how FH and I chose silver. He didn't want black and I didn't want white.

I totally agree on how black reminds them of funeral but Since u went with Silver I can understand ure feelings on her getting white. I feel for u sweetie. Many to you. Its ure day REMEMBER that. It will be perfect. And I know no one will notice but u will but really no one will notice.

Wow, that s^cks! I guess she didn't like the idea of a limo bus. Unfortunately, there's not a damn thing for you to do, but grin and bear it.

Are you happy with your decisions? That is all that matters it is your day..........That is what I keep trying to tell myself Good Luck, everything will turn out just great!

Ok the way I see it - you need to make the decisions about what is important to you. ifyou want a silver limo - great. You have one.
If you want white - switch. I see NO reason to switch or discuss it if you don't want to do it.
Does it matter that she has a white limo? Not really. Let her enjoy the day but don't let her try to impose on what you want. Let her make the decisions (like the limo) that affect her and only her. Don't waste your time and energy on this stuff.

i think that you should just grin and bare it for the sake of family peace. i would be polite and tell her that you want to keep your silver limo . i know how difficult it is too argue with a polish woman so i wouldnt try. justy laugh it off and have a great day in your silver limo

unbelievable!

I don't want to argue with anyone. I just don't understand why she thinks they should all make a grand entrance when my family isn't making one. I have never once made my FH feel like he was 'just a groom' and have gone out of my way to make sure that he was involved in everything.

I just feel like she has not been happy with our choices and now she wants to steal the spotlight by pulling up in a white limo.

It will all work out but today I am just feeling stressed.

I am sorry you are so upset, but I wouldn't classify taking a limo to your son's wedding as a 'grand enterance'. I think you should just let it go, it isn't worth getting upset over.

SORRY JMHO

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Posted by xjulietx


and now she wants to steal the spotlight by pulling up in a white limo.

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Just remember YOU and FH are the bride and groom - no one can steal your spotlight!! Honestly no one is even going to notice her and her limo. The family pulls up at church, since they are the groom's family they should be there earlier than the rest then at the reception place, no one is going to notice them either - your guests won't be arriving until later anyway...