FMIL is a pain in my rear!!!

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 04:49 PM

FMIL is a pain in my rear!!!

She just called up and bitched at me because her friend is mad because another friend did not get an invite to our e-party. I told her it was the postal system and they were both invited..she went on and on about how it is my fault. Umm, I did not send the invites and I do not work for the postal service. My MOH who is hosting it is in Italy right now and FMIL wanted to know if I could call her to find out about her other friends invite. Is she kidding?? I am going to call Italy to ask about an invite where the info is at my MOH's apt in nyc?? I don't think so! *Vent over* Ty for reading!

Aga Posted: Jul 06, 2004 04:51 PM

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breathe

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 04:53 PM

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So I call the FH...further referred to as 'the boy' and he told me to tape record our next conversation because she would never say that. Well, I told the boy that if he wanted to take her side he could move home permenantly and that I am the woman in his life and he better call her before I call her back and give her a real piece of mind.

breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out!!

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Jul 06, 2004 04:57 PM

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I am so sorry!

aimerliny Posted: Jul 06, 2004 04:59 PM

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Just take a deep breath and wait it out. It will blow over.

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Jul 06, 2004 05:01 PM

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Yikes.

The PO definitely could have lost it. When I mail stuff out for work, i try to avoid mailing around the holidays a lot of it gets lost.

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 05:01 PM

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I am waiting...its still going. The boy and his mother are both leaving voicemails like crazy. I am not talking to any of them I am the princess...I am allegedly the woman in his life and he going to have to grow a spine and stick up for me. I don't care who was or was not invited to this eparty, at this rate I don't even want to go! ty for the hugs..much appreciated!

drewsgirl Posted: Jul 06, 2004 05:07 PM

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ikasse02 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 05:09 PM

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I hope you're exaggerating in the language you're using!

If you aren't exaggerating they're not going to listen to you even if you're right!

ETS: Not that you're using bad language, but the tone is rather harsh.

Hang in there, moms can be very emotional!

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 05:12 PM

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I am starting to calm down and I really did say those things. I was so mad...she always calls when he is not home and picks fights with me! I really don't deserve it and this is the straw that broke the camels back. I flipped out and vented. He always tells me that she is fine and would never bother me, I tell him to look at the caller ID. And she always claims to be calling to ask how I am feeling. Like she cares. AHHHHHHHHH!

tina_cuse01 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 06:52 PM

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Glad you are calmer now and sorry you have to deal with this. He will come around, believe me. It just takes them a bit longer and works best if they realize it on their own. Good luck, but hold your ground (remember the e-party is just the BEGINNING).

sarahthegreat Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:08 PM

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

She just called up and bitched at me because her friend is mad because another friend did not get an invite to our e-party. I told her it was the postal system and they were both invited..she went on and on about how it is my fault. Umm, I did not send the invites and I do not work for the postal service. My MOH who is hosting it is in Italy right now and FMIL wanted to know if I could call her to find out about her other friends invite. Is she kidding?? I am going to call Italy to ask about an invite where the info is at my MOH's apt in nyc?? I don't think so! *Vent over* Ty for reading!

totally feel your pain on the e-party invite. we basically got blackmailed into inviting fils' close friends of the familys parents. that make sense? here goes, my fmil & ffill are close friends with xx & yy, and xx's (woman's) parents are always over my fil's house for dinner, usually fridays. fh & i cannot stand the parents of xx. love xx & yy. so we didnt invite them to the e-party. of course it comes up & ffil had to ask us to include them because of reasons that no one really needs to know. i find it infruriating that we had to invite these people who we can't stand. i hope things only get better from here!!!!

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:13 PM

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Did I neglect to mention that I have never met FMIL's friends before and I had to cut out friends so they could be invited? Pffft

sarahthegreat Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:15 PM

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Did I neglect to mention that I have never met FMIL's friends before and I had to cut out friends so they could be invited? Pffft

my only response is W T F???? can i ask who is paying for the shin-dig?

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:17 PM

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My MOH is paying for the shindig, if I was paying I would have committed myself by now. I mumble to FMIL all the time, ' you are going to send me to Creedmore.' Fugghetit, she might come visit..I am sure there is a bus that passes there!

sarahthegreat Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:19 PM

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i didn't mean to be nosey, but its still a party for you and your fh, right? why on earth are there going to be people there that you have never met?

Summer05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:20 PM

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Did I neglect to mention that I have never met FMIL's friends before and I had to cut out friends so they could be invited? Pffft

Are you serious!!! I would be so mad!!!!

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:22 PM

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Good for you for sticking up for yourself! You bet your FH has to be on your side!!

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:22 PM

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Posted by smm2675

i didn't mean to be nosey, but its still a party for you and your fh, right? why on earth are there going to be people there that you have never met?

FH and I decided to let her have ONE friend so she wouldn't bother us, well one turned into four couples. I am just so annoyed with the way she treats me. I swear, I am nothing but nice to this woman but she is going to send me to the looney bin. I was sick, she says 'you are too thin' I get better and she says ' you should lose weight.' She is a nutcase and she lives a block away!! ***? I am doomed.

sarahthegreat Posted: Jul 06, 2004 07:27 PM

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don't let her send you to the looney bin....i started out keeping my mouth shut with my fmil, now i hold almost, nothing back. if she tries to tell me i am too thin, i will tell her she needs to lose weight, and believe me she does. i can see her try to start pushing me around with the wedding stuff. she keeps telling me, she & her husband (fh's dad) are going to help us out, but i am not holding my breathe. hang in there and things will get better.