FMIL, Moms and Bachelorette Parties-LONG

Are you guys inviting your mom or FMIL or other 'older' family members to your bachelorette party? This is driving me nutty.

I kind of want my mom and aunts there. They are a lot of fun! They like to dance and party. At the same token, I am afraid I may not be as fun and crazy as I normally would be if they are there. My friends all want my mom there..she is like one of the girls to them (they forget she still is a mom though!) Then I was thinking of doing something with just the family - basically having two parties one for family and one for friends. But with the big day approaching and eveyone's schedules this may not be possible.

I had no intention of inviting FMIL to either. She is very very different than me and my family. I would not have fun if she is there. My mom and family get along with her but it is clear neither side really likes each other. I like to drink and be crazy and I think she will be shocked and maybe appalled. She knows none of my friends .. all she will know if her daughter.

Anyway, I get this email the other day where she references my bachelorette party as if shes gonna be there. Now my friends and I are all sending emails but not once was she on our distirbution list. Purposely I even left my mom off. How can she feel she is invited when she never was? I never even invited my mom (although many of my friends have asked my mom if she is coming).

FI had his bachelor party this weekend and invited his dad but not mine. I didn't say anything to him but I know my dad felt a little slighted. I know if I do not invite his mom but invite my mom..FMIL will be upset and I know FI will have stuff to say (he is a mama's boy but that is another thread).

Sorry so long but I am a wordy type of person.

What would you do? What have you done?

Re: FMIL, Moms and Bachelorette Parties-LONG

I would tell your FH to let his Mom know that your bachlorette party is going to be similar to his bachelor party- no FIL's invited. He can do this in a very nice way. I don't want a real bachlorette party, but I cannot imagine wanting my MIL there- even though she is very nice and we get along great. If you are drinking, doing the strip club/dance club thing I highly doubt that she will want to go. Your FH should explain this to her. BUT I would not just ignore it. Then you will have a problem with her feelings hurt.

Re: FMIL, Moms and Bachelorette Parties-LONG

I agree with Michele - your FI set a good precedent for you - no FIL's at either party. Neither side can complain since you're both following the same set of rules.


Good luck!!!

Re: FMIL, Moms and Bachelorette Parties-LONG

Maybe you could do a dinner before the big night out and invite the moms to that?