FMIL problems..HELP!!
Here goes...bear with me ladies....My wedding is in November and my parents are footing the bill for which I am extremely grateful..I have two babies( 2 months and 16 months) and live with my FH so they really don't need to pay for anything but wanted to give us a nice wedding. I have like twice as much family as FH so the list does have more from my side on it...FH was fine with that, we made the list together back in December. The invitations were sent out a month ago....his mother waits until after they are sent out to ask FH if she can invite friends, he said no...she b*tches to my sister that they only have 40 people while we have like 90....she says her sister and neice are mad they didn't get guests..we only gave people guests if they are living with or engaged to someone...his aunt and cousin aren't...the room can only hold a certain amount of people and I think my family should be there rather than strangers....I told FH's cousin that if we get 'no' responses I'd let her know so she can bring her boyfriend....FH and I agreed to give some 'no's' to his parents....I haven't spoken to his mother about it b/c I feel that if she has a problem she should come to me instead of complaining behind my back and until she does..I know nothing...am I being childish? My daughter was in NICU for a month and life is so precious and I just wish she would remember that..family comes first to me so I'm going to have family at my wedding first.....my mom said we should have given her X amount of people to invite, that's the proper way, but then I wudn't have been able to invite some of MY friends and I think that's unfair too.....back when we made the list his parents weren't speaking to us, they were mad we don't let them run our lives....but even then my mom and I questioned FH about if he thought his parents would want certain people there...he kept telling us no, no, no....now when FMIl starts complaining he needs to see the list, count the people, the list should be in half.....he DID see the list, MY parents are paying, why should the list be in half? This woman always creates drama in my life b/c she loves drama in hers and I just wish she wouldn't be such a child b/c I don't have time for it!!! Am I being wrong?
