FMIL RANT!!!!

ok so with 73 days left she gets the idea that FH should sleep at her house on the sofa! (not pull out) in a packed and cluttered apt the night before our wedding. Then the limo can pick them all up from there.

Almost a year ago we decided that I would go to my Grandmothers and my mother would come to me. He would stay home and FMIL wouuld come to him. We'd do the whole food spread for the bridal party before hand in both houses. FMIL and FFIL are divorced horrible abusive relationship!!!! She swears she'll be able to handle his family for this event! Even wanted us to have an engagement party to prove it! Thank god we didn't!

So FH tells her our reasons for him to stay home and if she wanted to sleep over she flips and says I won't stay there!!! You'll be alone! Who's going to set up the food not me (as in me not her). He tells her also is dad and grandmother might want to see him before the church and she flips out!!! Tells him the limo has to pick her up from her apt not ours!!!! She will not be coming to our home!!!

I'm fuming beyond belief!!!! How can she say this now!? He didn't see the big deal but I do why can't she be there for him! Besides we're sharing one limo and it has to pick me up too it would only take 10 extra minutes to get her total but why?! How will she handle the shower, rehersal, ceremony and reception if she can't even handle this!!!!!????????????

I am not the product of a divorce or abusive family so I don't know if I'm out in left field here! HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Her response would probably be I'll pay it!

If the wedding wasn't this close I would probably call her and tell her how horrible she is being! But that would just make everyone hate me I did that once before many years ago. I tell my parents how their actions make me feel his family just holds it in, I don't get that. They say it's respect for thier mother it's really just her walking all over them!

I'm so afraid that he will end up in the house alone on our wedding day his brothers always stick by thier mother's side they are all mommy's boys! It just makes me sooo upset thinking about him being alone.