FMIL rant!!!!!!
ok so I have said before that FH's mom does invites favors, etc as her business. She has kindly purchased our wedding favors (before we were even engaged), has made several great suggestions for the wedding, and offered to pay for our flowers and invitations. Well here comes the big fight...
She had given me some invite books to look at over the weekend and i found 2 that go with my theme. One had the exact wording which FH and I had previously talked about-(Because you have shared in our lives by our friendship and love....yada yada yada....Bride and Groom, together with their parents.....) well she flipped because we didn't want to put parents names on the invite. She kept saying (which she also said re: our engagement party and this is what really ticked me off-' Wait til your father gets home' . I'm sorry FH and I are 29 years old and it's our wedding. I'm sorry u got married at 18 after only 3 months of dating and u let your father pick out everything but its our day!
She says it proper etiquette and that it looks like we are paying for the wedding ourselves. FFIL will want it on there. ( we are paying for many things ourselves, his parents are paying for their plates(and also invited so many extra people we didn't want there, my family is paying for there plates,and FH has many other friends and clients so he's paying for them)
I told her i know it is 'proper' but we want it the other way because my parents just got divorced and i didn't want three names listed. I said it would look funny. So after FH had it out with her but then took her side and said she was paying for it and it was stupid we were fighting over paper and ink that people just throw away. He said his mom is just worried what her family would think (always some family drama) she made the comment that ' We are paying more than her side is'... well that just P***S*D me off!!!!!!
Its one thing to offer to do something because you want to but don't throw it in our faces that you are paying more.. YOU offered to pay!!!! YOU do this for a living!!! YOU keep calling and saying YOU have so many ideas!!!! I offered to give you money.....
I understand but don't say S**t like that! I realized later that when she had the names listed she said their names first.. If she is so into proper etiquette, doesn't the bride's parents go first???? The way we like it covers all the bases. I know she would want their names first. AAAAAAARRRGGHHH!!
FH says that if I want it my way I will have to pay for them. He is so sick of fighting over such trivial stuff. It just really irks me that she said the whole $ thing. She is the type of person who doesn't mind doing something as long as u do it her way!!!! I have no problem doing getting my own invites but this would save a lot of money.... I want my destination wedding back!!!!!!!!! Rant/Vent Over!!!! Thanks for reading
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She had given me some invite books to look at over the weekend and i found 2 that go with my theme. One had the exact wording which FH and I had previously talked about-(Because you have shared in our lives by our friendship and love....yada yada yada....Bride and Groom, together with their parents.....) well she flipped because we didn't want to put parents names on the invite. She kept saying (which she also said re: our engagement party and this is what really ticked me off-' Wait til your father gets home' . I'm sorry FH and I are 29 years old and it's our wedding. I'm sorry u got married at 18 after only 3 months of dating and u let your father pick out everything but its our day!
She says it proper etiquette and that it looks like we are paying for the wedding ourselves. FFIL will want it on there. ( we are paying for many things ourselves, his parents are paying for their plates(and also invited so many extra people we didn't want there, my family is paying for there plates,and FH has many other friends and clients so he's paying for them)
I told her i know it is 'proper' but we want it the other way because my parents just got divorced and i didn't want three names listed. I said it would look funny. So after FH had it out with her but then took her side and said she was paying for it and it was stupid we were fighting over paper and ink that people just throw away. He said his mom is just worried what her family would think (always some family drama) she made the comment that ' We are paying more than her side is'... well that just P***S*D me off!!!!!!
Its one thing to offer to do something because you want to but don't throw it in our faces that you are paying more.. YOU offered to pay!!!! YOU do this for a living!!! YOU keep calling and saying YOU have so many ideas!!!! I offered to give you money.....
I understand but don't say S**t like that! I realized later that when she had the names listed she said their names first.. If she is so into proper etiquette, doesn't the bride's parents go first???? The way we like it covers all the bases. I know she would want their names first. AAAAAAARRRGGHHH!!
FH says that if I want it my way I will have to pay for them. He is so sick of fighting over such trivial stuff. It just really irks me that she said the whole $ thing. She is the type of person who doesn't mind doing something as long as u do it her way!!!! I have no problem doing getting my own invites but this would save a lot of money.... I want my destination wedding back!!!!!!!!! Rant/Vent Over!!!! Thanks for reading
