FMIL said No!!!!

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:15 PM

FMIL said No!!!!

Let me start by saying that I adore my FMIL to pieces and we're very close....

But today we were chatting on the phone and I mentioned that I wanted some of her wedding photos to display at the wedding and she said no I understand, because FH's died tragically when he was like 10, and bringing out those photos will upset her and maybe have some unwanted questions asked.

Oh well, not to worry, I have some other tricks up my sleeve to incorporate his father's memory into the wedding

Im a Pepper Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:37 PM

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aww i'm sorry she said no. it's understandable, but it would have been nice if she'd said yes.

kimiequa Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:58 PM

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aww, i'm sorry. i'm sure that your FH would love to have that for a nice memory of his dad. i guess everyone grieves differently though.

JackieV Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:45 PM

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aw i'm sorry!!! Hopefully ur other trick works

mcbride62009 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 07:19 PM

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What did FH say about all of this? Or is it a suprise?

FutureMrsLehmann Posted: Feb 15, 2008 07:23 PM

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if she said no then you might want to be careful about anything else you do considering her late husband. she obviously said no for a reason, so you should def respect that!

yngcpl92203 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 01:40 AM

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Sorry she said no, however i think it might be for the better. You dont want ppl upset or down at your wedding its supposed to be a happy time

KristiAnn923 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 07:01 AM

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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann

if she said no then you might want to be careful about anything else you do considering her late husband. she obviously said no for a reason, so you should def respect that!

I agree. Don't make it uncomfortable for her. It's going to be hard enough. Or you can talk to FH and see what he says.

PrincessBride09 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 09:00 AM

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I agree. Talk to FH and test out any of the ideas you might have so as not to upset her. That is a difficult situation. Good luck though. It's really nice that you want to make sure to honor his memory on your special day!

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 09:33 AM

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She's fine with us incorporating his memory into the wedding, she just doesn't want us to use pictures.

CollBride09 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 09:47 AM

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Awwww I'm sorry...that is very sad! I'm sure that FH will appreciate having his father remembered on your wedding day!!!!!

flairforfashion Posted: Feb 17, 2008 12:11 AM

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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann

if she said no then you might want to be careful about anything else you do considering her late husband. she obviously said no for a reason, so you should def respect that!

I def agree. It may be extremely painful for her to deal with this. I am sure you will figure something out. But, you always want to keep things good with the FMIL.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Feb 17, 2008 09:34 AM

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read above post

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Feb 17, 2008 09:46 AM

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so she wont let you use any pics?

My suggestion was going to be a pic of him on a chair in the church. I know some people have done that before. Did you mention that to her?