Well, I do think my FMIL is great, and I have never vented anything about her before, but..... we are going upstate (where FH's parents and family lives) for my 'upstate' shower this weekend. FH asks her yesterday who she invited, and she invited someone to this shower who is not invited to the wedding. Our list is already WAY over what we wanted it to be, I absolutely CANNOT add anyone else... Should I say anything to this person, or leave it up to FMIL to explain? SHE gave us the list for their side, its not like we just made it up or anything. UGH What an uncomfortable situation.
ali120206
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That is uncomfortable. I guess I would point it out to her that the person wasn't on the list of people invited to the wedding.
Good luck!
Mrs. dleeny
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oops
JanuaryBride06
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MIL invited people to an engagement party when they weren't invited to the wedding. I left her to explain it.
SeptBride70
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MIL invited people to an engagement party when they weren't invited to the wedding. I left her to explain it.
yes i agree, if she wants to do something so rude and just plain dumb like that i would leave her to do the explaining. how do you justify doing something like that?? the person is going to assume they are invited to the wedding and if the invites have already been sent out they are going to be confused and annoyed as to why they have to shell out money for a gift for a shower and go to one when they are not important enough for the wedding... wedding is supposed to be the family, friends, and other people (more distant) and the showers and e-party are supposed to be the close ring, not the other way around!!! that's just crazy, if my FMIL did that i would die--i wouldn't put it past her, oh god lol i'll be on here next month with the same issue!!!
R&J0806
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leave it to FMIL. She screwed up -- let her deal with it.
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leave it to FMIL. She screwed up -- let her deal with it.
I am sure i will have this happen... i ditto this.. let her deal with it! she knows what your guest list is!
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Does FMIL realize the mistake she made??? I would first talk to her (or have FH do it). She may not even know. Once FH does the explaining, she can then handle the fall-out etc.
