FMIL Vent (long, sorry)

So you girls know, FMIL can be a little crazy sometimes but I really do love her because she really is amazingly sweet. Lately though, she's making me a little crazy. First, she got all bent out of shape because Easter was my god-daughters birthday and so we spent it with my family. There has only been 1 other holiday prior to this since we all started talking again, which was New Years and we spent it with her. She said we have to start alternating holidays and next year Easter is at her house, even if my family has to go there. FHs brother abandoned her so she's keeping us close because she's afraid she's going to lose us too. My family is really close, theirs is not and I'm so not about to give up my family to please her.

And yesterday she started making artificial CPs for me. I kind of wanted real flowers, but whatever, no big deal. I'm fine with artificial for CPs only. She got the wrong flowers, so I explained to her I wanted calla lilies. The vase she got is like 2 feet high, higher than I had wanted. She wants to put a bow in the CPs. she wants them to be dainty, and I want showy. We're complete opposites, but it's MY wedding! Well, today she went back to get the flowers I asked for and she said the woman told her she had to order everything today otherwise we won't have them for the wedding because everyone uses calla lilies for weddings. So now she's pressuring me to make a decision today. I have to go see them when I get home from work. And she wants me to use artificial for the Bo-ks but I refuse!

And the other thing is invitations. She pulls out the ones she did for FHs brother's engagement party. They're the ones you can get at AC Moore with the silver foil hearts on the top. She used red ink and the wording was horrible. She wants me to do the same thing but with pink ink because it saves so much money. I'm paying for the invitations and I want a certain style. I'm not into the kind she wants. I told her they were nice for the party. Hello! I'm not having a party. It's a darn wedding!!!

Oh...I'm so sorry you have to go through the aggravation.

Does she have only sons? Because it sounds almost as if she's trying way too hard to be part of the wedding planning because she might be left out otherwise or forgotten. I know my FMIL only has sons and she sometimes does stuff like that. We've had to put our foot down though and have said 'NO' to a lot of things.

I'm sure she means well, but it is probably so frustrating to deal with someone who is virtually taking over.

Aww I'm sorry...just stick to your grounds! I feel for you, my family isn't that close but my husbands family is. When I come home on leave we stay with his family.

Just remember to stick to your grounds. Make sure you have the CP's the way you want and if you are buying the invites then get what you want!

Wow. You're gong to have to talk to her. As the others said, it's YOUR wedding. And if you let her have her way with this, then it will be something else down the line, then she'll be taking over. First, 2' is way too big for a centerpiece vase unless it's a high centerpiece. You need to have your guests talk over or under the flowers. 2' is just blocking them. And I find it hard to believe that there's going to be some great artificial calla lily shortage. I think the salesperson was just trying to make a big sale. Stick to your guns, if not you're just going to have big problems in the future. Oh, and tell her that saving money is nice, but these are your wedding invitations, and it's OK to spend enough to get nice ones. You don't have to go crazy, but you can spend more than she did for the engagement party.