Can you believe this??! My FMIL turns to me the other day ( of course when my FH wasnt around) and goes ' how are you planning this wedding for so cheap?? ' Me - ' SO CHEAP?!?!? Its costing us about $28k Shes like well my niece got married last year and they spend over 50k and it was soo nice.. you are spending so much less.. I hope it doesnt look cheap. And I hope at least the food is good, or I wouldnt even bother! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I was soooo mad!!! The only thing I could think to say without blowing up was that 28k is alot of money and she planned her wedding in 8mos. I had 2 years.. plus she had her parents check book to cover anything and everything. I then tried to explain to her that just b/c you spend alot of $$ dosent make the wedding nice.. you can have a nicer wedding for 15k then you can for 50k ( and girls on here have proved it!) but she just dosent get it
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Wow.....she is acting like a total beotch! Maybe if she's so worried about it looking cheap, she should fork some money over.
I think she was rude and out of line. I'm sure your wedding will be absolutely wonderful, regardless of what you spend.
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UGGHHH.. SOme people, need to learn how to keep there mouths shut!!!!!!!! Your wedding, is going to be beautiful.. not to be cocky, but my wedding is going to be amazing, and we're spending like $25,000!! SO BLAHHHHHHH!!!! DOn't let her get to you.. and IS SHE PAYING FOR THE WEDDING?????????
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What an assshat. You should have said, '50k, wow, I bet she got ripped off'. I'm sure that would have pushed her buttons.
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thank you guys Nope we are paying for the whole thing.. she has offered to pay for the favors ( b/c she knows if it was up to me I would give something cute and inexpensive.. well she cant have that at her son's wedding.. you have to give lenox or mikasa or whatever so I know the reason behind that one) She has PLENTY of $$ and hasnt offered anything but the favors.. but her daughter who isnt even engaged yet.. and she hates the boyfriend sooo much.. she has already told us shes paying for her whole wedding... oh well I prefer it this way.. no one to answer to.. I do everything the way WE like grrr lol
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What an assshat. You should have said, '50k, wow, I bet she got ripped off'. I'm sure that would have pushed her buttons.
Oh man, that would of been good.. I wish I could come up with that, when someone says something ridiculous to ME!
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don't sweat it... she's obviously completely clueless and you are goig t have an amazing wedding with some $ left in your pocket, due to your SMART spending!
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What an assshat. You should have said, '50k, wow, I bet she got ripped off'. I'm sure that would have pushed her buttons.
asshat?
LMAO
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Wow.....she is acting like a total beotch! Maybe if she's so worried about it looking cheap, she should fork some money over.
Hear hear!!!
(PS - My thinking is that you are doing a GREAT job planning a wedding at ANY budget!)
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Unless she is writing you a check, she needs to stay out of it. I am sure your day will be great!!!!
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WTF?? Ask her if she would like to contribute to your wedding fund so she doesn't look cheap!!! OMG she would think we were cheap-Our wedding is only costing about $17k with EVERYTHING!!! Good Luck!!
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I added it up and came close to 15k, maybe less. I was orginally at 20K but chose to only do 100 guests.
Tell her money does not make the wedding. The people do so a million $$$ wedding is not necessarily better than a 28k one.
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That was rude -I was watching Carmen Electra planning her wedding and she had no idea what was going on! So even if you have lot of cash - I always feel the more work you put into it, the more heart it has...
I know my FIL's are watching everything I do saying they would never do it like that - but it's none of their business! You do things your way and you can bet that everyone has the best time and calls the next day to tell you how wonderful it was - that happened at our eparty... FIL's didn't invite 1 person b/c they thought that there wouldn't be enough parking by my house - their loss!!
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Posted by larryswife2be
Unless she is writing you a check, she needs to stay out of it. I am sure your day will be great!!!!
I agree!!
darly
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Yes! I forgot that - so true!
NYCHICK
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O no she didn't I agree with Mr. Hostility.
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Why does she even know how much you're spending? Since none of it is her $, none of it is her business.
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OOOH how rude! Don't let her get to you, I am sure your wedding will be way better because it is your wedding
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Yeah, tell her to open her checkbook!
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I hate people! If she doesn't want it to be 'cheap', where's her contribution?!!! How dare she say something like that to you?!
Stupid b*tch! She should be slapped upside the head! You're gonna have a wonderful wedding - I'm spending $16k and mine's gonna kick ass!
