FMIL?? what the heck!??

ok, so she tried to kick my friends from their table at my shower for her family (4 spots are still open and she needs 3) then gets petty over what she was only allowed to do.. more than MOG should do.. then picks throug the favors for her favs and hands them to her friends and offers them 2 (no one else got this take 2 generocity).. made a sceen about where am i gonna sit i am the mother of the groom.. meanwhile my mom was pretty much sitting in the corner! shopped for her friends for stuff i didnt register for and from a store not registered at. so now i am stuck with floral kitchen stuff i dont want, i am not a floral person! but now...

a few months ago i had a DISCUSSION with her that FH said her friends son and wife were not going to be invited.. FH hasnt seen him in 15 yrs and he is 10 yrs older than he is... sooo... i tell her how bothered i am that it is inconsiderate didnt tell her friends this and have continued to let them assume this after FH told her a month ago he was not invited.. so i told her to please speak to them and clear the air! FH and i just stoped by the hotel to check on bookings.. HE has a room booked! HELLO??? sounds like she still hasnt told them.. is she letting them make travel arrangements and will lead them on til they start to wonder where his invitation is? I just think this takes major balls and lack of shame and embarassement. because right now i am embarrassed and furious!!!

in-laws can really suck sometime. Sorry!

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Posted by xcalystax

OMG the balls on your FMIL!! She will be the one that will have to put out the fire so she is digging her own grave...

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If that person who is not invited makes all these plans- it's your FMIL who is going to look like a horses potootie- not you. Because if anyone mentions it to you - you can simply say that you told her months ago. Won't she look stupid!

You know I've said this...your FMIL and mine must be related in some, shape or form. I'm so sorry about all this...

Unfortunately though - and I'm basing this on my FMIL - it sounds like yours has no intention of telling this guy that he's not invited. I'd also double check to see if there's anyone else she invited that you may not know about.

My FMIL did this....for example, there's a family of five and of those five, three were invited. Without telling me initially - and mind you I'm making placecards for everyone - she decided to invite the other two people. She's verbally invited people with guests after an invite went out for no guest.

Some people just don't have any consideration. Keep on top of her. And don't worry about annoying her. Chances are you will, and she'll give you answers/get things done to get you off her back.

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Posted by robynlevy

Unfortunately though - and I'm basing this on my FMIL - it sounds like yours has no intention of telling this guy that he's not invited. I'd also double check to see if there's anyone else she invited that you may not know about.

Some people just don't have any consideration. Keep on top of her. And don't worry about annoying her. Chances are you will, and she'll give you answers/get things done to get you off her back.

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I completely agree, this really sounds like the case. Maybe it's time to get your FH involved to lay down the law, so she knows it's both of your decisions, not just yours.

I'm sorry for this, and I really hope it all works out for the best.