FMIL's Dress

nella20005 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 10:10 AM

FMIL's Dress

Hello Ladies,
What happens when you don't like your FMIL's dress? My FMIL and I get along great. Yesterday she showed me her 'options' and I hate every one of them. I gave her a swatch of the color yesterday but what she showed me was totally off. My colors are plum and silver. She showed me a lalic suit, a green suit and a hot pink suit. I'm thinking of just buying her a dress myself. But I'm not sure how she would take it. Any advice?

BrideToB Posted: Apr 29, 2013 10:16 AM

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Do you specifically want her in your colors? Lilac is a shade of purple so it may be nice for her to be different but still in the same color family. Maybe she feels more comfortable with a suit and that's why she didn't choose dresses? If you get along well, I'd just tell her your concerns.

I was in a wedding on Friday and the Bridesmaids were in champagne and the maid of honor in taupe, MOB in brown and I thought it looked really good that the MOB didn't match us perfectly, but was still in the same color family. My bridesmaid dresses will be plum and my mom got a navy dress. I hate that! I wanted her to do lilac or purple. But it was a battle I chose not to fight since I have so many others. Good luck!

sandr325 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 10:23 AM

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I think the hot pink will be too much. Also, your FMIL doesn't necessary have to match but she needs to look like she is part of the wedding. I suggest you offer to go going dress shopping with her.

The lilac should go nicely. What colors would you like to see her in? My instructions to my FMIL were no pink or navy, but you need to complement the pinks (her daughter and granddaughters will be wearing pinks).

angelicd77 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 10:56 AM

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My FMIL just bought a dress that is parrot crap green and my colors are silver and cobalt. I think its their mission to make our lives miserable...

2013Bride Posted: Apr 29, 2013 11:04 AM

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Posted by angelicd77
parrot crap green

cupcakegal930 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 11:11 AM

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Posted by 2013Bride

Posted by angelicd77
parrot crap green

Thank you for making me lol at my desk! That was the best line i've seen all day!!!!

My FMIL refuses to look for a dress yet because she feels it's the only thing she has to do for the wedding and once that is over she will have nothing to look forward to... I was like ummmmmm lets see.. how about looking forward to THE WEDDING! ps.. it's not the only thing she has to do.. she's helping my mom with the shower and I've involved her in EVERYTHING! ugh..

Laura Suzanne Posted: Apr 29, 2013 11:16 AM

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I dont think she should have to match your girls. Just let her wear whatever she wants. If she looks silly in hot pink, she'll look silly, not you

Pinkisles Posted: Apr 29, 2013 03:45 PM

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I don't think she should have to match either. My colors were pink and black, My mom wore red, and my mother in law wore black w/ green. They both looked nice, and were happy and comfotable, and that's all that matters.

nella20005 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 04:05 PM

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angelicd77 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 06:34 PM

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I dont think that they necessarily have to match but I think my fmil picked this particular shade of green for a reason. She knows how much I HATE green and for some reason she has something to say about EVERYTHING we decide to do about the wedding. So the one thing that she actually had a say in she made sure I hated. Whatever. I'm still gonna look good

fdnybride163 Posted: Apr 29, 2013 10:22 PM

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My fmil wanted reeeeeddddd like fire truck red.

She ended up getting cranberry but still. Flocking red

KroertGS Posted: Apr 30, 2013 08:06 AM

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If she doesn't match and looks like a tool, it's her own dang fault. Carry on!

2013Bride Posted: Apr 30, 2013 08:49 AM

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Personally I'm sick and tired of hearing about my fmil & fsil's dresses. I completely turn off in conversation because I don't care that much.

scottsbride Posted: Apr 30, 2013 08:56 AM

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This matching to the bridal party thing never occurred to me. My mom isnt going to match my bridal party at all.I guess if you want her to match then go with the lilac.

larlynn Posted: Apr 30, 2013 10:22 PM

FMIL's Dress

My FMIL is wearing a dress from the back of her closet that she got on clearance. I haven't seen this dress and don't even know what color it is, let alone whether or not it matches anything.

RussianBride Posted: May 01, 2013 08:07 AM

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Posted by angelicd77

My FMIL just bought a dress that is parrot crap green and my colors are silver and cobalt. I think its their mission to make our lives miserable...

You just made me LOL
I agree! My FMIL asked if it's ok if she wore black....BLACK!!!! Ughhhh then she wanted to buy a plain black dress and put beads on it herself...WTH??? Just buy a nice dress & thats it! She is going dress shopping today - let's see what happens....she does not like to spend too much money...oh boy.
If my colors are deep red & silver (my mother will hopefullly wear silver), which color should FMIL's dress be?

RussianBride Posted: May 01, 2013 08:08 AM

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Posted by fdnybride163

My fmil wanted reeeeeddddd like fire truck red.

She ended up getting cranberry but still. Flocking red

What are your colors?

Poggi Posted: May 01, 2013 08:32 AM

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It doesn't really matter much to me what my FAIL (future aunt in law, FH parents both passed when he was pretty young so his aunt and uncle took care of him after. Kind of funny that its fail, she's not a fail though she's great). As long as what she chooses looks flattering on her ill be happy. Looking like she matches the bridal party is not necessary for me.