FOCCUS?

Did anyone have to do this before precana?

What is it? What kind of questions do they ask?

I have ... it was all online. Asked how we felt about money, inlaws, children. Would we forgive our spouse if they cheated. Nothing to worry about. Its not a 'compatability' test but more so to start the dialogue over issues/matters you may not agree about!

Lmk if you have any other questions!

Ok sooo do i tell the truth? LOL

Am i supposed to forgive for cheating?

What are they going to ask about FIL?

Now im scared haha.
My FOCCUS is in person. Its ALL day tomorrow with a couple from the church.

You both take the 'test' together and answer as honestly as you can. They then compare your answers with FH's. It's not a test so much as to see areas within your relationship that you should talk about. The goal is to help you start to communicate and gives you a starting point.

When FH and I did it I took some things differently than he did. We were able to learn alot and it was a basis for precana.

We need to take this but FH and I have been putting it off until there is not as much going on.

I heard it causes fights...not looking forward to it

We didn't have to take this but FH wants to so he can look at the statics of how compatible we are