for Jewish brides, re: parents

evnme Posted: Jul 31, 2005 05:06 PM

for Jewish brides, re: parents

Hi gals!
FH and I were wondering if you were having both sets of parents under the chuppah with you?

I know there are no set rules... but is this customary to do?

TIA

Happybride2005 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 05:10 PM

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not sure yet what we're doing. i don't think his parents could stand that long. but when my sister got married, both parents were under the chuppah

becks23 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 06:16 PM

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We are having both sets of parents under the chuppah. I believe it's customary this way.

Jax430 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 06:42 PM

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We had both sets of parents under the chuppah with us. I believe it is customary.

randella Posted: Jul 31, 2005 07:00 PM

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we had both sets of parents-- and they both walked us each down the aisle.

MrsP2Be Posted: Jul 31, 2005 07:12 PM

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Custom for both parents, isn't it? My FMIL is disabled so we might have a chair down there for her.

070306 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 08:45 PM

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I never even thought of it. GOOD QUESTION. I know both our parents are walking us down the aisle. I guess your Rabbi would direct you with this. Who else goes under with you?

FallBride05 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 09:56 PM

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Yes, it's customary for both sets of parents to be under the chuppah.

PinkSoil Posted: Jul 31, 2005 10:22 PM

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I guess since our wedding is Interfaith, both my parents will be under the chuppah? That was a question, not a statement since I have no idea!

evnme Posted: Jul 31, 2005 10:34 PM

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thank you all so much!!

Goldi1021 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 10:50 PM

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Posted by PinkSoil

I guess since our wedding is Interfaith, both my parents will be under the chuppah? That was a question, not a statement since I have no idea!

My brother had an interfaith ceremony at a hall. Both sets of parents walked them down but they sat in the first row of chairs. I do not know if non-Jewish parents would want to stand under the chuppah though you never know.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jul 31, 2005 10:56 PM

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Posted by MrsP2Be

Custom for both parents, isn't it? My FMIL is disabled so we might have a chair down there for her.

My mother is disabled and will have a chair/stool for her to lean on. G-d makes dispensations for people with disabilities, otherwise he wouldn't be terribly merciful would he? Initially, she didn't want to be under there at all on a chair because she did not want to be a spectacle as she walks with a cane. I had to beg to walk with me since I would be there alone with no parents if she did not. My father passed three weeks ago. I asked my brother to stand in for Dad to help mom walk me down and to keep her steady under the chuppah.