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How do you deal with arguments? Knowing that you are not together all the time...how do you get through a fight with him. Especially a really heated one where neither of you can talk because you are so angry...
Posted by MrsKtoBe
Before I lived with FH (the first 4 years of our relationship), we used to just call a time out for the night and talk about it the next day.
Honestly, I think thats a real benefit of not living together because you can kind of sleep it off. Once you live together its very hard to take some space and take a deep breath.
I'm sorry you're stressedHugs!
Posted by rbjugdarro
My FH has a really bad temper or so Ive been told. I hardly see it. He has told me that he used to be really bad with his temper but with me he has calmed down a lot. We hardly argue, but when we do its usually something stupid that makes us blow up right away. My FH says things the wrong way, he doesnt think before he speaks so everytime he says something during an argument I now have to repeat to him what he said, analyze it and ask him over and over what he really meant. I have learned this technique over the 4 yrs we have been together.
Im the type that has to deal with it right away. He used to either walk away from me or hang up the phone on me cuz he didnt want to blow up. But I have to deal with it right away and ask tons of questions. SInce we dont live together yet, I hate going to bed angry. We have learned over time to give each other the space we need when upset and not go to bed upset. I made him promise me to not walk away from me, hang up on me or anything like that during an argument. I HATE THAT, CANT STAND THAT!!!!! SInce he has stopped doing that for quite some time now, and I now know how to deal with him, it isnt bad at all.
Now when we finally do live with each other, I know that will be a whole other story.
I sometimes wish we lived together already because a lot of people say thats when u really get to know each other. I worry about that sometimes because I wonder if he'll change or I'll change. We bought a house last year but we both decided to wait till the wedding. But there are times when I just want to pack my bags and move in. Some tell us that we are doing the right thng by waiting others say we have no idea what we are getting into. Either way, theres only 4 more months to go.
Posted by rbjugdarro
I sometimes wish we lived together already because a lot of people say thats when u really get to know each other. I worry about that sometimes because I wonder if he'll change or I'll change. We bought a house last year but we both decided to wait till the wedding. But there are times when I just want to pack my bags and move in. Some tell us that we are doing the right thng by waiting others say we have no idea what we are getting into. Either way, theres only 4 more months to go.
Its kinda hard now that we don't live together,but because I hate negativity I will be the one to hang up the phone first. The problem is that even when he's annoyed he still wants to talk to me! I'm scared about arguing while living together because we promised not to go to sleep upset,but I won't even want him in my presence if we're mad at one another!
Posted by naopleasant
Its kinda hard now that we don't live together,but because I hate negativity I will be the one to hang up the phone first. The problem is that even when he's annoyed he still wants to talk to me! I'm scared about arguing while living together because we promised not to go to sleep upset,but I won't even want him in my presence if we're mad at one another!
Once we hang up the next day we speak again one usually texts the other to ask if were still mad lol. then we call each other.
