for those getting married by a friend/family member

Kris724 Posted: Nov 19, 2014 07:55 PM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

If you are getting married by someone who is ordained/certified/etc, but doesn't really have experience doing marrying people, what resources are you using to plan your ceremony?
I am having trouble even just finding a basic guideline of what should be included. I found a few articles on the knot that helped, but just wondering if anyone had any suggestions!

Alimm729 Posted: Nov 19, 2014 08:12 PM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

Kris724 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 05:47 AM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

Hmm ok ill ask him bc I had no idea! Thanks!

Kris724 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 05:47 AM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

Hmm ok ill ask him bc I had no idea! Thanks!

kammy322 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 11:21 AM

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Posted by Alimm729

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

We are having a friend do ours and he signed up online and is awaiting his package. But, what does he need to do afterwards? Does he need to sign up with the state somehow?

Alimm729 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 12:00 PM

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Posted by kammy322

Posted by Alimm729

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

We are having a friend do ours and he signed up online and is awaiting his package. But, what does he need to do afterwards? Does he need to sign up with the state somehow?

Nope. That's all my friend had to do. She called the town of Riverhead (where my venue was) and they told her she was good to go.

kammy322 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 12:47 PM

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Posted by Alimm729

Posted by kammy322

Posted by Alimm729

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

We are having a friend do ours and he signed up online and is awaiting his package. But, what does he need to do afterwards? Does he need to sign up with the state somehow?

Nope. That's all my friend had to do. She called the town of Riverhead (where my venue was) and they told her she was good to go.

Which website did you go with?

kellynicole91 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 01:19 PM

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Posted by Alimm729

Posted by kammy322

Posted by Alimm729

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

We are having a friend do ours and he signed up online and is awaiting his package. But, what does he need to do afterwards? Does he need to sign up with the state somehow?

Nope. That's all my friend had to do. She called the town of Riverhead (where my venue was) and they told her she was good to go.

Thank you so much for this! My uncle is marrying us (he previously married my brother in Florida) and we weren't sure if he had to do anything else before our wedding. I was going to call the Town of Brookhaven to double check because I didn't see anything, only in NYC I think they have to get licensed or something.

gberti Posted: Nov 20, 2014 02:12 PM

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Posted by kammy322

Posted by Alimm729

Posted by kammy322

Posted by Alimm729

We had a friend marry us, and she said her ordination paper work came with all kinds of ceremony suggestions. We did it together.

We are having a friend do ours and he signed up online and is awaiting his package. But, what does he need to do afterwards? Does he need to sign up with the state somehow?

Nope. That's all my friend had to do. She called the town of Riverhead (where my venue was) and they told her she was good to go.

Which website did you go with?

FOllowing!!! Im curious which website you used too! Thanks!

kammy322 Posted: Nov 20, 2014 02:54 PM

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We purchased the basic minister package from Universal Ministries.

soontobermrsg Posted: Nov 20, 2014 10:57 PM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

My childhood friend is marrying us. He's done a few weddings already but only for close friends. I am going to give him what we want to say. Other than that, I think he knows what he's doing lol (Or let's hope)

Alimm729 Posted: Nov 21, 2014 09:56 AM

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Posted by kammy322

We purchased the basic minister package from Universal Ministries.

Yup! This!

kammy322 Posted: Nov 21, 2014 11:31 AM

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Posted by Alimm729

Posted by kammy322

We purchased the basic minister package from Universal Ministries.

Yup! This!

Oh, great! I thought there had to be much more to it! Thanks for the info!

gberti Posted: Nov 21, 2014 02:52 PM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

Fabulous! Thanks!

Joannaj79 Posted: May 12, 2015 11:57 AM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

We want a close friend to marry us I am so nervous about the legality of it. There are so many online ordination sites and there is a lot of conflicting info online. I did call the Town of Islip and they told me it shouldn't be a problem but I am still nervous. Any advice would be appreciated :)

kammy322 Posted: May 12, 2015 11:59 AM

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Posted by Joannaj79

We want a close friend to marry us I am so nervous about the legality of it. There are so many online ordination sites and there is a lot of conflicting info online. I did call the Town of Islip and they told me it shouldn't be a problem but I am still nervous. Any advice would be appreciated :)

Did you call the town where you are getting married or where you are picking up your license?

Joannaj79 Posted: May 12, 2015 03:33 PM

for those getting married by a friend/family member

I called the town where I live as well as the town where we are getting married all are located within Suffolk County. However I have still been researching this and today I reached out to Town of Babylon and Southhampton and this was the response that I received via email

NYC has legislation that acknowledges internet ministers, Suffolk County does not. It might be best to have someone like a judge, minister or marriage officer legalize the marriage and then you can have your internet minister perform the ceremony, that is for you to decide.

I also saw Pastor April had posted in one of the forums similar advice so I am thinking we are going to make it official at town hall before we have our friend do the ceremony just to be on the safe side.