For those getting married in a church

karen32 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:01 AM

For those getting married in a church

Do you attend regularly???? I haven't been to mass in months and months (FI won't step foot in a church other than for the wedding). I'm starting to feel guilty about getting married in a church, but not giving back to the church that hour on Sunday morning.

MarcellaBella Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:02 AM

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No, I don't.. =(

daisybride Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:17 AM

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I have not attended church in years, and my FI decided he wanted to get married in a church. I wanted outside but I sad okay and I found a church that I was comfortable with. I started going just about every week and now he wants nothing to do with it. He won't step foot in the church. he told me he just wants to get married there. I think he is being a hyporite since it was his idea in the first place. The only reason I am still attending is because I want the church to mean something to us (or me in this case). I want to get to now the parish, the priest, and feel comfortable there. This is JMO. I don't think its a problem is you don't go. It totally depends on what you want and how you feel. Good Luck!

Annemarie13 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:21 AM

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No- I am also guilty of not attending regularly.

cw0904 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:22 AM

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No I don't.

mlp924 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:31 AM

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Ni I dont attend regularly.

Betty Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:35 AM

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I don't go regularly and I don't feel guilty but I'm not having a full mass.

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:43 AM

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My FH just made his confirmation, so we've been going regularly and hope to keeo it up.

BUT - before he decided to get confirmed we only went on major holidays.

Sometimes I really find it peaceful and rewarding, other times I honestly can't wait to leave.

nylisa Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:47 AM

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I do attend regularly and have been active in my church for 14 years.

Irishbride Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:52 AM

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I am getting married in a church but do not attend. I dont feel guilty at all. FH does not go either.

karen32 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:57 AM

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we're just doing the ceremony, too - i didn't think it was proper to do a full mass since neither FI nor myself are active. for some reason i still feel guilty - like the priest is going to mention that he never sees us there or something!!!!

sanmik Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:58 AM

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No - - I go Christmas, Easter if I'm in the mood and any Christening that's going on that year.

Helene718 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:58 AM

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Every Sunday!

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 11:44 AM

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i go once a week....

my sister got married in a church and she hadnt gone in many months..

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 01, 2003 11:47 AM

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i, sad to say I have not been to a mass since my oen church in NPT,,,,years ago

Olgaki Posted: Jul 01, 2003 11:47 AM

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I go once a week as well - and I've been going to the same church since I was 5. I'm happy I found a church that is so meaningful to me and a place I have a relationship with the priests. I feel it will make the day even nicer.

jlm2004 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 05:18 PM

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I have been to church twice in 4 years!!!
My mom has been less frequently but wanted us to be married in a church so that's what we're doing. My FH is Hindu so we will also have a Hindu ceremony.

Does anyone know if Catholic priests still insist on kids being raised Catholic? (our will not be raised Catholic - probably just aware of both Catholic and Hindu religions)

ThreeTwenty Posted: Jul 01, 2003 05:31 PM

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JLM- part of the vows in a Catholic ceremony are 'we agree to accept children lovingly and raise them according to the word of Christ' or something like that. Basically, yes, the church wants you to raise children Catholic. But the church also wants you to not use birth control, obstain from sex until marriage...etc...etc...I say what they don't know won't hurt them!