for those of you who had parents (or in laws) who did not pay for the wedding?

HoosierCouple Posted: Mar 28, 2011 12:49 PM

for those of you who had parents (or in laws) who did not pay for the wedding?

did you limit there amount of how many people they can invite?

adelz Posted: Mar 28, 2011 12:52 PM

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We're paying for the full thing, and only invited people we want there, and didn't really ask others what their thoughts were on it. We wanted a very small intimite wedding, and asking others for who they want there would totally ruin that. We also both got really lucky because neither of our parents butted in with who's coming and who's not coming - they respect that it's our decision in the end.

halfbaked Posted: Mar 28, 2011 01:08 PM

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No, I didn't limit the amount of people they could invite. My father invited a few friends of his that I've known since I was a kid and same with MIL. After all they've done for DH and I for the past 20+ years, paying for their friends to party with us wasn't that big of a deal.

MrsWoods Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:08 PM

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Posted by adelz

We're paying for the full thing, and only invited people we want there, and didn't really ask others what their thoughts were on it. We wanted a very small intimite wedding, and asking others for who they want there would totally ruin that. We also both got really lucky because neither of our parents butted in with who's coming and who's not coming - they respect that it's our decision in the end.

Same here

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:16 PM

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I can't wait to see the list I get from FMIL....FH seems to think she is paying for all her work friends but I don't think she thinks that. For the eparty & our STD I got a list of 10 i think, which is fine. Anymore than that I might have to say something. My thought is are they really worth the pp you are paying, if not they belong off the list or on the 'B' List

foundmylove Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:33 PM

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we are paying for the whole wedding and we did not limit our parents inviting people

Cataverri Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:42 PM

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Posted by adelz

We're paying for the full thing, and only invited people we want there, and didn't really ask others what their thoughts were on it. We wanted a very small intimite wedding, and asking others for who they want there would totally ruin that. We also both got really lucky because neither of our parents butted in with who's coming and who's not coming - they respect that it's our decision in the end.

This!~!!!!!!!

irishgrl1017 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:48 PM

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My in-laws did not pay for much at all. I told DH they can have one table and if they want more they need to pay...I prob. sound like a u know what...but I didnt care

T E R I Posted: Mar 28, 2011 02:51 PM

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We paid for the whole thing, but gave both sides free liberty to invite whomever they wanted, we didn't put a limit on it

kdm822 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 04:25 PM

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yikes.. i would say we already met our minimum or finalized our list ...anything extra you can pay.

BellaRegina Posted: Mar 28, 2011 04:35 PM

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My FH and I are paying for everything, we specifically don't want help from the families because we dont want them to have a say in it....haha.

My mom made a very rough list when i first got engaged....i looked at it and laughed. It was too long, and full of too many people i didn't know and it basically pissed me off.
We didn't sit down and discuss it yet, but i know its going to be a heated argument, but in the end.....I'M PAYING and its MY wedding.

I have a high minimun (250), but i SO rather fill up those spots with friends than family that i've never met.

LMEL1223 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 04:43 PM

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My future inlaws are not paying for anything and I am getting married at a smaller venue. My fh and I are paying for most of it and my parents are giving us some $ toward everything. I had to limit the # of people they can invite. My fmil originally gave me a list of 50 ppl and then after i booked a small venue changed it to close to 100 ppl. So i had to tell them that if they were willing to pay for the venue change and the extra people then i could invite them all. If not, then it simply could not happen.
It is hard to make these kinds of decisions but sometimes you have to put your foot down.

Yankeeelove Posted: Mar 28, 2011 04:56 PM

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Fmil is forcing us to invite 8 of her friends, whom FH and I have never even met before, and she's not even offering to chip in for those people, let alone chip in for the wedding. I should of said no, oh well. Smh

jovigirl414 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:45 PM

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We are paying for everything on our own, and we are NOT extending guest lists to any parents because of that - if you don't pay, you don't get a say!

Im getting Married Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:24 PM

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We are paying for everything (my mom paid for my dress and veil though). I already knew we would invite my mom's best friend and his aunt and husband. Outside of that we didn't ask if they wanted anyone invited because we wanted small and intimate and that is what we are having

MarryingMyBFF1110 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 09:08 PM

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I limited FH's family to immediate only....originally they wanted 200 for JUST his side,...now we have 20 :) No money, not coming. I don't know you? We haven't met in the 8 years we've been together? Sorry, not coming.

After everything, we are having a separate ceremony for his family (different faith 5 months before), which FH's parents ARE paying for, and are not giving me spaces to invite people from my side to (other then my parents)

spdy540 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 09:25 PM

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we are paying the whole thing ourselves we told fh parent they could make a small list, my parents were barely invited themselves so they got no say.

night_nurse Posted: Mar 28, 2011 10:34 PM

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We gave each set of parents half of 1/3 the total guests. Meaning, we have 150 guests, each parent set got 25.

Jenn7982 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 11:09 PM

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we didn't ask for any lists. we are inviting who we want

leesah85 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 11:24 PM

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i didn't limit the amount because my FMIL's list had 90 people on it and about 50 of them are OOT. if she gave me a list with a ton on it though, i probably would tell her that she could have about 75 people and then anything above that, they'd have to pay for