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did you limit there amount of how many people they can invite?
Posted by jilliibabii
No, I didn't limit the amount of people they could invite. My father invited a few friends of his that I've known since I was a kid and same with MIL. After all they've done for DH and I for the past 20+ years, paying for their friends to party with us wasn't that big of a deal.
Booking the wedding under the assumption we were paying for everything (hence, it's 2 years away) we did not give a limit to parents. We wrote a rough draft of list and the guests our parents wanted to invite, were pretty much there anyway. We probably added about 10 more in total than we thought. But so far our parents have really chipped in with hall payments, extra money for down payment of house, etc... so we really cant complain anyway
My FH and I are paying for everything. I was so overwhelmed with making the guest list that we sat down with each of them like OK, who do we invite? I regret this big time. My dad had hardly anybody on the list. He didn't even want to invite his own sister. ALthough he has a 6 year old son from an ex gf and he wanted to invite his whole family (inc his siblings--kids!) but I didn't complain bc those were the only weirdo extras. FMIL came over the next day and handed me a typed list and said this is the list I used for his (FH's) brothers wedding. Period. the end. Now her bestie from elem school and random old lady aunts I've never met are invited. I had no say, and we are the ones footing the bill. Big time regret.
I think you need to sit down and have a rational talk with her, put things in persepctive and say what you want your wedding to be, full of people you know and love not strangers, also bring the cost into play, be understanding about her feelings but deff tell her how you feel about the growing list.. good luck~!
Posted by adelz
We're paying for the full thing, and only invited people we want there, and didn't really ask others what their thoughts were on it. We wanted a very small intimite wedding, and asking others for who they want there would totally ruin that. We also both got really lucky because neither of our parents butted in with who's coming and who's not coming - they respect that it's our decision in the end.
Posted by jilliibabii
No, I didn't limit the amount of people they could invite. My father invited a few friends of his that I've known since I was a kid and same with MIL. After all they've done for DH and I for the past 20+ years, paying for their friends to party with us wasn't that big of a deal.
Posted by Jenn7982
we didn't ask for any lists. we are inviting who we want
No limit though there weren't many. FIL's invited a few of their close friends but FH and I would have invited them anyways (they are at a lot of family events).
we're paying for everything ourselves so before we started looking at venues and all that stuff we set up a budget and our guestlist so we knew how many people we wanted to invite, how much we wanted to spend per person and how much we wanted to spend in total. My mom is only allowed to invite some friends but not alot, mainly people I've known my whole life. Same with FH's family. So far we have been on budget (i've gone over here and there) but keeping on budget is extremely important when you and your FH is paying for everything.
