For those who are married.....

MCDO15 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:40 AM

For those who are married.....

how much money did you make and how many guest did you have? Im trying to plan buying house thing at the same time...(preparing to make an offer today or tomorrow)

TIA

(btw) - i posted here cause many of you gals are already married hang out here and not on BHB

nov04LIbride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:46 AM

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Posted by MCDO15

how much money did you make and how many guest did you have? Im trying to plan buying house thing at the same time...(preparing to make an offer today or tomorrow)

TIA

(btw) - i posted here cause many of you gals are already married hang out here and not on BHB

Are you asking what were our combined salaries and how much did the wedding cost?

julz33 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:47 AM

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I'm sending you FM!

nov04LIbride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:49 AM

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FM

ETA: We didn't 'make' nearly what we spent on the wedding.

Janice Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:50 AM

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we had 110 guest..made 9,000 DH's family is not from NY so they did not bring monetary gifts, they actually brought nothing, but that was okay..if they had not of attended it would have looked like my birthday party not our wedding. We kept our wedding costs low because I figured this was going to happen, the next morning we woke up very happy that we did not tap into our house fund for the celebration

MCDO15 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:53 AM

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sorry...maybe i wasnt clear

how much did you make from your wedding (your guest envoples)

and how many guest...

not that im expect or want money for my wedding... i know that its somthing is coming

EDIT
i could undstand not sharing since its kinda personal information....

nov04LIbride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:56 AM

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Quite a few people surprised us with no card, no gift...It's very hard to predict. I would just say do what you can afford, and all else will be a pleasant surprise.

FeliciaDA Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:57 AM

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Unfortunately, you never 'make' as much as you might expect to when it comes to a wedding... which is why its better to have no expectations. You just never know who is going to be generous... or not so generous

We were relatively lucky, some people went above and beyond, which made up for the stiffers (I hardly cared if I got a gift or just a little money ... I wasn't looking to make $$ either.. but at the very least I did expect at least a .99 cent CARD ... and I'm still waiting 6 months later )

OK sorry to tangent, I'll FM you with the money figures

DrmnBlnd Posted: Feb 10, 2005 11:00 AM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

Quite a few people surprised us with no card, no gift...It's very hard to predict. I would just say do what you can afford, and all else will be a pleasant surprise.

same here

MCDO15 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 11:01 AM

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Unfortunately, you never 'make' as much as you might expect to when it comes to a wedding... which is why its better to have no expectations. You just never know who is going to be generous... or not so generous

We were relatively lucky, some people went above and beyond, which made up for the stiffers (I hardly cared if I got a gift or just a little money ... I wasn't looking to make $$ either.. but at the very least I did expect at least a .99 cent CARD ... and I'm still waiting 6 months later )

OK sorry to tangent, I'll FM you with the money figures

i agree... heck, im waiting over a year for a thank you that i gave a nice 'genuous' gift.
needless to say, we dont speak to that person anymore...

not that its expectations but a house is a huge purchase and i dont want to pass up this house i found. im looking for pennies on the floor and wedge into the couch

Jan05Bride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 11:02 AM

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I sent you FM.

tourist Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:25 PM

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Posted by MCDO15

Posted by FeliciaDA

Unfortunately, you never 'make' as much as you might expect to when it comes to a wedding... which is why its better to have no expectations. You just never know who is going to be generous... or not so generous

We were relatively lucky, some people went above and beyond, which made up for the stiffers (I hardly cared if I got a gift or just a little money ... I wasn't looking to make $$ either.. but at the very least I did expect at least a .99 cent CARD ... and I'm still waiting 6 months later )

OK sorry to tangent, I'll FM you with the money figures

i agree... heck, im waiting over a year for a thank you that i gave a nice 'genuous' gift.
needless to say, we dont speak to that person anymore...

not that its expectations but a house is a huge purchase and i dont want to pass up this house i found. im looking for pennies on the floor and wedge into the couch

ooh-ooh, you found a house! where? I fm'd you.

StepherG Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:28 PM

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Kinda of a weird question! I didn't think of my wedding as a 'money making event.' Count on $0 and then you'll be pleasantly surprised by your guests generousity...there isn't a formula for this.

june262004 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:40 PM

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Posted by StepherG

Kinda of a weird question! I didn't think of my wedding as a 'money making event.' Count on $0 and then you'll be pleasantly surprised by your guests generousity...there isn't a formula for this.

You can say that. I was thinking that way up until I opened my gifts. I was not thrilled with the couples who gave us 50.00.One couples son got married the year before and they knew how much a wedding costs. Maybe I sound like a spoiled stuck up brat (which im not) but thats just how I feel. We got I think 10,000-14,000 Mostly because my family gave us 500.00 each. Mikes grandparents gave us 3000.00 and Mikes sister (who has 4 kids and all 6 of them where in the wedding party) gave us a thousand We tried to give it back. You really can't expect TRUST ME. U will be really disapointed.

On the other hand the people who didn't give us anything not even a card still got thank yous. Which a lot of people don't do.

ETA: The people who gave us 50.00 where from Mikes side and people who we never EVER met. Maybe that is why thats all we got from them. But Mike parents felt the need to invite them even though the day we got engaged Mikes mom said I already paid for my daughters wedding Im done I don't have to pay for anyone else.

Blu-ize Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:41 PM

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Received about 1/2 of what we spent. (Not a lot but we didn't expect a lot)

wc0143 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:44 PM

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If you are paying for the wedding yourselves, I'd be surprised if you come out ahead ... just doesn't work that way as far as I can tell.

We had 117 guests, got gifts from everyone, some VERY generous and when it was all deposited, it was less than half of what we spent and that was fine. I did not expect my guests to pay for my wedding.

peabody Posted: Feb 10, 2005 12:48 PM

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I think I am in the minority, but everyone was so, so generous. I was in awe! I couldn't believe some of the monetary gifts that people gave us. The money that we spent on the wedding (excluding the HM) was covered by our guests.

newbie Posted: Feb 10, 2005 01:02 PM

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Posted by StepherG

Kinda of a weird question! I didn't think of my wedding as a 'money making event.' Count on $0 and then you'll be pleasantly surprised by your guests generousity...there isn't a formula for this.

I agree. Expect nothing. It's a little dangerous to have any expectations. You will be pleasantly surprised by some guests and unpleasantly surprised by others.

Considering what was spent on the wedding (by my mom, me, and DH), we got back about 50% of what we all spent in total -- maybe even a little bit more than 50%.

Jan05Bride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 01:18 PM

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Posted by peabody

I think I am in the minority, but everyone was so, so generous. I was in awe! I couldn't believe some of the monetary gifts that people gave us. The money that we spent on the wedding (excluding the HM) was covered by our guests.

Us too and part of the honeymoon. I really was surprised at what we have (and still are) received.