For those who lived/live with their FH's for a while before getting married...

lipglossjunky73 Posted: May 03, 2006 11:39 AM

For those who lived/live with their FH's for a while before getting married...

What in your opinion (or if you are already married, your experience) will really 'change' after you get married if you already have a home together, joint checking acct, maybe even kids together or stepkids, etc...

RadioLau Posted: May 03, 2006 11:43 AM

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The biggest change I think is more spiritual than anything. We will then share the same name and be a family. I know it's cheesey but that is how I feel. The wedding and being married is a statement about our feelings and our relationship. I am SUCH a cornball!!

lipglossjunky73 Posted: May 03, 2006 11:44 AM

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Thats not cirny - i completely agree with you - we are actually doing a lot of spiritual things for our wedding!

july06bride Posted: May 03, 2006 11:44 AM

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Well, we have been living together for almost 3 years in July- and we bought a house this past summer- and we do not have children...and wont for a while...

What I think is going to change is the fact that my fh got a new job- a wonderful one but it means traveling all over every 4 months... I will be going with him, which means he will be supporting us, our family- me him and the puppy for two years while he does this. It does mean sacraficing but the end product will be worth it.

CLMon7906 Posted: May 03, 2006 11:49 AM

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Posted by RadioLau

The biggest change I think is more spiritual than anything. We will then share the same name and be a family. I know it's cheesey but that is how I feel. The wedding and being married is a statement about our feelings and our relationship. I am SUCH a cornball!!

EXACTLY. FMIL said the other day 'I guess not much will change after the wedding' I was like, nope not really. It's about being able to say that you've committed your life to the other and of course, not pretending that we don't, um, well, you know....get naked.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: May 03, 2006 11:51 AM

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Posted by vixchik

Posted by RadioLau

The biggest change I think is more spiritual than anything. We will then share the same name and be a family. I know it's cheesey but that is how I feel. The wedding and being married is a statement about our feelings and our relationship. I am SUCH a cornball!!

EXACTLY. FMIL said the other day 'I guess not much will change after the wedding' I was like, nope not really. It's about being able to say that you've committed your life to the other and of course, not pretending that we don't, um, well, you know....get naked.

Wait - we are supposed to get NAKED after we get married?

Please tell me not in the same room!!!!

RadioLau Posted: May 03, 2006 11:56 AM

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LOL!!!! I never heard anything about the naked thing!! We sleep in separate bedrooms and we have separate bathrooms. (If my grandparents ask!!!)

greenfreak Posted: May 03, 2006 12:07 PM

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We don't see much changing either, until we are ready to buy a house. Then our neighborhood changes, along with relationships with family since we will be living closer to my sister and parents and expect to be able to see them a lot more than now.

Once the house is settled, we want to travel outside the US once a year. It's one of those things that we're waiting on because there are better things to spend $ on.

Other than that, we don't see much changing. It's kind of a comforting thought. Settling into adulthood.

laural2979 Posted: May 03, 2006 12:11 PM

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We still don't share a checking account so I think that will be the biggest change. It will also take me a while to get used to my new name.

stephanief Posted: May 03, 2006 12:15 PM

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I have been married for 17 days and although we lived together for 2 years before we got married, I definitely feel different. I do not know how to explain it except to say that it feels more 'real' now. I hope that makes sense. We also have consolidated our finances into one bank account which we did not have before marriage. HTH

waterspout4 Posted: May 03, 2006 12:16 PM

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We had separate bedrooms. So now we're trying to get used to sleeping together.

CLMon7906 Posted: May 03, 2006 12:23 PM

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

Posted by vixchik

Posted by RadioLau

The biggest change I think is more spiritual than anything. We will then share the same name and be a family. I know it's cheesey but that is how I feel. The wedding and being married is a statement about our feelings and our relationship. I am SUCH a cornball!!

EXACTLY. FMIL said the other day 'I guess not much will change after the wedding' I was like, nope not really. It's about being able to say that you've committed your life to the other and of course, not pretending that we don't, um, well, you know....get naked.

Wait - we are supposed to get NAKED after we get married?

Please tell me not in the same room!!!!

ok, i think we need to have a talk ladies, please get your permission slips signed by your moms and then read the following:

when 2 people love each other and really care about one another......

kittythestray Posted: May 03, 2006 12:44 PM

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This thread is cracking me up... I think the biggest change will be the bank accounts. We've been living together almost 2 years and own our own house. I like that my receptionist will say 'Your husband is on the phone...'

stephanielyse Posted: May 03, 2006 12:51 PM

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I don't think that much will change for us. We've been living together for a year and a half. We already have a joint account, although that's new and I'm still trying to teach him to write down when he uses the card (). We also had gotten into the habit of calling each other 'husband' and 'wife,' although I put a stop to that this weekend, because I want to wait until after the wedding when it's official, now that it's so close. Honestly, I don't want things to change too much, they're great the way they are.

Steph62406 Posted: May 03, 2006 12:53 PM

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Posted by RadioLau

The biggest change I think is more spiritual than anything. We will then share the same name and be a family. I know it's cheesey but that is how I feel. The wedding and being married is a statement about our feelings and our relationship. I am SUCH a cornball!!

I agree with this 100% ...We have a 4 year old Daughter together, I feel like everything will be complete..Marriage was the only missing piece in our puzzle.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: May 03, 2006 01:00 PM

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Posted by RadioLau

LOL!!!! I never heard anything about the naked thing!! We sleep in separate bedrooms and we have separate bathrooms. (If my grandparents ask!!!)

When we told FH's grandmother that we were going to live in sin, she said 'oh? Where is that?'

tonimike Posted: May 03, 2006 01:41 PM

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Me & Fh live toegethr too so i asked fh bout this he goes 'i can officaly then say your my bioch' too funny,,

curliegirl Posted: May 03, 2006 01:46 PM

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Money!!!

CLMon7906 Posted: May 03, 2006 01:46 PM

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Posted by Katie&Chris2006

When we told FH's grandmother that we were going to live in sin, she said 'oh? Where is that?'

Oh my gosh!!! that's sooooo funny.

I also can't wait to say 'my husband' or 'I am his wife'.....'this is his fiance' doesn't carry the same weight when you call his office. that and i want to be able to kiss him whenever i want to.......oh no, i've said tooo much, cover your screen girls.....yes, you have to kiss them, too!!!

this thread has just made my day for it's humor and yet seriousness all at once.

BHW Posted: May 03, 2006 02:10 PM

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Posted by stephanief

I have been married for 17 days and although we lived together for 2 years before we got married, I definitely feel different. I do not know how to explain it except to say that it feels more 'real' now. I hope that makes sense. We also have consolidated our finances into one bank account which we did not have before marriage. HTH

I agree. It's hard to describe, but we're both happier and feel more settled/secure. It feels more like we're a family. It's definitely better.